I'm miscarrying and don't know what will happen

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No one will tell me. I've been bleeding since Sunday night and have been to the EPU where although I'm still testing positive, the scan suggests that I am 5/6 weeks pregnant. Unfortunately, I know my dates and I'm 100% sure that I was 8 1/2 weeks pregnant and there's no chance that I'm wrong. Which means it's a missed miscarriage basically, but the doctor can't tell me that until I go back for another scan next week.

In the meantime what will happen? The doctor's mentioned that a spike in temperature or sudden very heavy blood loss or pain I can't cope with I can come back in (via A&E) but I'm obviously hoping that won't happen.

Not to be graphic, but so far I've got blood loss and cramping as if this were just a very heavy period.

I know this is probably a hard question, but can someone tell me how much worse it will get?

I've already gone through a horrific 24 hour back to back labour (full term, to a beautiful healthy boy) so I'm confident I can at least try to handle this alone, albeit with a boisterous toddler running around - I just want to know what to expect...

Can they not scan you sooner? I only have experience of what I thought was miscarriage really heavy bleeding but was ok few days later, carried to term. Can your partner be with you, and you relax on sofa with trashy film?

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Its hard to say how much worse it will get - everyones experience is different. But if it is a miscarriage, then at some point you will start to pass clots which can be quite large (maybe lemon sized) and that may be the most painful part. TBVH, I'd recommend keeping your eyes firmly off the loo after you've been - flick the lid down behind you as you stand up.
You might want to sit on a dark towel jic of leaking pads.

If you start soaking a pad in less than an hour, or you can't manage the pain, then you do need to go to hospital.

Hi so sorry to hear you are going through this, I miscarried at 11+ weeks, I started with spotting and light cramps by day 3 the bleeding suddenly became really heavy in the morning, I thought it wasn't too bad until the afternoon and I started bleeding a lot more with big clots. The pain to me was a bit more sore than period pain but not as sore as Labour and manageable with paracetamol

I'm sure other people will have had a different experience, I ended up having to go into hospital because I had lost so much blood although thankfully it was not as heavy by night time and I got out the next day.

Make sure you get plenty of rest and that you have someone with you if you can.

Thanks for your replies. It's a terrible question to ask... miscarriage is such a taboo subject and now I'm realizing why really. Too horrible to talk about, and then it happens to you... the medical team are still trying to be kind and offer hope, when actually there is none.

I had my last period on my dad's birthday - it's a date I always remember, because he died just a few years ago and I find it a difficult day all round. I also had an MRI scan that day (long story, this year has been a bit "medical" unfortunately) so what was on the scan didn't match my dates at all. I had an 8 week scan with DS and I know what a healthy 8 week pregnancy looks like. This looks and feels, empty.

My heart is broken, but I want to mend my body as soon as possible. The next scan is just so close to Christmas and I've got a little boy to think about. I want, I need to be well, even if I'm in pieces inside...

noclue I can't offer much advice but your last post struck a chord with me and I had to comment, I just had to have a erpc for a MMC discovered at a 13wks scan, I feel the same I just want to be normal for christmas for my dc who's here and healthy.

You sound so strong and brave, take painkillers, keep warm eat well and rest as much as possible, that's all I can say to help.

Take care xXx

Thanks for your message jj I've been reading your posts and my heart breaks for you. As bad as this is for me, I did at least have a bleed so some advanced warning that something was wrong, the way you found out was just cruel. I really hope you can start to feel better soon x

Thank you noclue its horrible however it happens.

I hope your resting and being gentle with yourself, here's to a brighter 2012 for both of us xx

Hi noclue so sorry for your loss.

I m/c in july and was cluless just like you.

As dibbler says everyone's experience is different but mine consisted of bleeding when i thought i was 10 weeks trip to epau where found out baby died at 6+6 was told i had to wait and see what happens if it would come out naturally. Bleeding got heavier and painful and 2 days after my scan i hd what i can only describe as contractions when i then passed the sac which i'm going tbh was awful. had a scan following week everything was clear and told to carry on as normal.

Have you got someone with you so your not alone or at least someone who can watch your toddler?

Try a hot water bottle or a warm wheat pack, paracetamol, and a bath.

Hope this has helped. x