my friends confidence is all time low since she lost her twins thru miscarriage

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as altogether it took her a month to miscarry it fully and now she is so low and depressed (at the time she was miscarrying the twins, she didnt know she was pg)

ive told her to speak to her hubby cos she thinks he doesnt love her anymore (and probably being paranoid). and also see her docs about counselling to talk about it properly

I don't know that I could better your advice. This is such a sad story, I really feel for your friend. I have had a missed miscarriage (five years ago now) and recently miscarried at just under 9 weeks.

Your friend may well be thinking all sorts of odd things which you might never guess. With my first miscarriage, I was enormously mad with my body for both losing the baby and not telling me that I'd lost it - I couldn't believe that I could go for a scan and find out that I was carrying a baby that had been dead for a week. I was scared that I'd never be able to trust my body with a baby again. Have gone on to have two very straightforward pregnancies in the meantime.

It might well be worth trying to explore with other MNs what your friend could be feeling, so that you can gently help her explore what she is feeling. Only if she (and you!) want to do that - it might help her find out if she actually wants to go to counselling or not.

oh im so sorry to hear! im giving you some hugs vibes {{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}

ive never been thru it so i dont know what she is exactly feeling atm but i can imagined its horrible. she is one of the mumsnetters but is too terrified to come on here incase she loses it..

i did a long thread about my friend got rushed into hosp and she didnt know she was pg at the time. she had loads of blood tests (18 all in!!!) and docs thought she was just carrying 1 baby in the womb but it was a very slow miscarriage.. Xmas eve, she checked whether she was in the clear and found out she was still pg, but it was another baby (twins) outside the womb - in the tube!.. i feel sorry for her too