Blighted ovum denial!

[kim0412]

On Tuesday I went for my 12 week nuchal scan and was sooo excited! My partner & I took time off work and 'went to see our baby' for the first time! Though that excitement was short lived. Within the hour the sonographer was telling me that it was bad news! A blighted ovum was diagnosed & she said that she could see an empty sac with a yolk with no baby. The sac measured around 7-8 weeks. I asked if she was certain & she said that in a sac that size she should see something.

Whilst I felt numb, I took the news pretty well & held back the tears. The rational part of my brain is telling me that it just wasn't my time & these things happen for a reason. Though 3 days have passed now & I'm starting to convince myself that maybe she was wrong or just couldn't see the baby because it was hiding or something?!

Can anyone tell me whether I'm being dillusional?! Iv decided to wait for a natural miscarriage as in my head iv convinced myself that if the pregnancies really not viable than my body will know what to do! Pregnancy tests are still giving strong positive results & I feel exactly like I have done throughout!

I'm so confused & uncertain as to whether I'm prolonging my heartache & the inevitable! But I can't get the 'what if' out of my head. :-(

Hi. I'm so sorry. I discovered I had a blighted ovum this week too, though in my case it was picked up after bleeding at 11+3 not at my 12 week scan (though baby also stopped growing at 8 weeks). You can return for more scans to help you except it/ rule out a mistake/ miracle (just ask). It is pretty horrible seeing a sack with no baby. I was in massive denial even though I was bleeding... persuaded myself it was harmless spotting & the scan would reveal at least one heartbeat, maybe even twins! So I can imagine with no miscarriage symptoms yet it must be very hard indeed to sink in.

Just wanted to warn (I'm sorry to do this) that my natural miscarriage was horrible, just huge amounts of tissue & gore, really awful... and I still had to have the ERPC after all that, as incredibly (to me, after passing mountains of stuff) the miscarriage was still incomplete. I hope I unlucky & it will be less traumatic for you. Just wanted to say you can change your mind at any time, just go to A&E and get yourself on the emergency ERPC list if it does get too much for you at home. I wish I has spared myself & DH all that gore

Hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss xx

Hi, unfortunately i have now had 4 of these. I am told that this is very very unusual and very bad luck.

You will still feel very pregnant and your hormone levels will still be elevated, hence the positive pregnancy tests. These are likely to continue to be + for a while even after you have completed miscarried. For this reason, i would advise that it is unwise to keep testing.
Pregnancy symptoms can be very very strong, but this doesnt mean that the pregnancy will continue.

I chose to allow the pregnancy to naturally end so that i would know that it was meant to happen. I didnt begin to miscarry until i was 13 weeks, and i knew i would mc from 7 weeks, it was torture waiting. It was very very painful, distressing and traumatic.

I have also opted for the medication route, took 48 hours, gas & air, morphine and tramadol for the pain. This too was distressing and traumatic, but over very quickly in hospital.

I am sorry that this has happened to you, i wouldnt wish this on any one.
There is no easy way to get through this, take a deep breath and face it, its the only way.
Its not fucking fair, its not fucking right, you dont deserve it. HUGS to you at this awful time x

Thankyou for sharing your experiences. It really does help hearing what you've been through & makes me realise that there probably isn't a little miracle waiting at the end of all of this!

Out of curiosity, how long does it take to recover from a d&c? It's my 30th birthday next weekend & whilst it's goin to b hard to celebrate with my emotions so raw, I could do without adding physical distress to the mix.

Hi OP. What rubbish birthday timing for you. I'm sorry. I was thirty last month in the full throngs of morning sickness & had to cancel my night out At the time I thought, oh well, a baby is the best birthday prezzie ever So I hope you do get a nice night to celebrate & think about something else.

My ERPC was two and a half days ago & I'm getting the odd ache & still bleeding lightly (less than a normal period) but otherwise ok. I am really dizzy still but I think that's because I lost heaps of blood & tissue naturally before my operation, not because of my operation. Yesterday I drove short distances and walked short lengths ok. I am just about functioning as normal, though tired. Unfortunately the half a glass of wine I had last night gave me a pounding headache (possibly jut because I haven't touched booze for 11 weeks rather than because of the op) so maybe take it easy & intersperse any booze with water but I reckon you should be ok to celebrate your birthday. Much more so than if you happened to be miscarrying naturally then

Good luck & fingers crossed enjoy x

There was too many in my last post. Here is an optimistic to make us feel better!

Thanks for all of your advice birdofthenorth and sharing your experiences. It really helped! Went in for the ERPC yesterday and really am beginning to feel a sense of closure. Its been a horrible time but im beginning to look forward and think about planning to try again in the new year! And choosing the op route has meant that I don't have to wait anticipating the pain and gore that you detailed! The op was quick and easy and I feel normal today! Looking like I may just be able to enjoy my birthday weekend after all!

Good luck with trying again and thankyou for giving me a little bit of hope through this.

x

V happy to have been of any help. Really glad the op went smoothly Hope you have brilliant birthday, and I wish you all the very best trying again in the new year xx

so sorry for your loss - it is almost a year now since I went for 12 week scan and found a blighted ovum

I am glad that you have gone through the ERPC and are feeling physically OK - take your time, chat on here as much as you need to and get support in RL too if you can.

much love to you and hope you are able to enjoy your birthday, and good luck with the trying again :)

Thanks for your post wellieboots. Seems that since my last post things went from bad to worse! Started having serious, major cramps last Friday night that went on for hours & the pain was excrutiating. Finally passed loads of blood & massive clots! Ended up back in hospital and am now on anti biotics! Needless to say all birthday plans were cancelled. Just one of those things I guess. Seems iv been saying that a lot recently!

Looking forward to getting back to normal & trying again. Though to add to my worries, at my last internal scan it was rumoured (with a medical student) that I possibly have a heart shaped uterus! Google suggests bad things about such conditions! :-(

Going to talk to my doc about it to air my woes & help close this whole horrible affair.