Second Miscarriage and Thoroughly Confused

[sassmonkey]

Hi everyone,

I haven't been on MN since I had my baby boy almost 2 years ago. But I'm feeling a such a mix of emotions right now that the only place I can think to dump them, where i might actually get some clarity and reassurance is here!

I am 37 and we'd like a second child. I had a MC at 6 weeks back in July. This Friday I did a pregnancy test and it came out positive, then last night I started bleeding. In my upset state last night, I did another pregnancy test and it basically read negative - basically because there was the faintest-of-faint second line, where the original had a very strong line. Can hormones really dissipate that quickly?

As with all of you, I'm sure, I didn't ever imagine (though I feared) myself having one miscarriage, let alone 2. I'm upset for so many reasons, one of them being fear that miscarriage just makes you prone to more miscarriages. Is there any truth to that? My age concerns me and adds pressure to the whole thing, which can't be helping anything can it!!

I don't even know what I'm looking for here, maybe understanding or a bit of hope. I dont' want to give up believing that I might have a second baby, but I feel like the odds are stacking.

Thanks,
Sass

I'm sorry this has happened to you. Miscarriage is an awful thing to happen, at any stage of pregnancy.

I don't know if this will help you, but here are some stats about miscarriage, which might answer a couple of your questions.

Yes, your levels could have dropped that much between Friday and today. The levels getting low can be the thing to trigger the bleeding. I'm so sorry.

HOWEVER, I really believe that 37 is not at all too old to give you an excellent chance for the future.

Miscarriage doesn't make you prone to more miscarriages. There may be factors that made your miscarriages slightly more likely, eg being slightly older. But there is no reason at all that the next one won't be the one. Do go and chat to your GP about it, they may be helpful.