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Dontwipeyournoseonthesofa · 12/11/2011 21:05


I know this is quite trivial compared with the experiences of lots of other women, but just at the moment, I'm struggling.

I miscarried at 8 weeks, and felt that I was coping quite well-mostly philosophical about how often it happens/wasn't meant to be etc-whilst having appropriately sad moments.

I bumped into my neighbour today, who told me that she's pregnant (I'm thrilled for her) but it turns out she's due on what would have been my due date. All of a sudden, I'm not coping at all! I've been in floods of tears, and although I know I'm being completely irrational, it feels as though she's having my baby.

I'm sure "this too shall pass", but for the moment, it hurts like hell.

Thanks for listening :(

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Pancakeflipper · 12/11/2011 21:09

Oh that is bound to really hurt so don't berate yourself for having a big sob.

Passing you a tissue, giving you a hug and just cry and cry. Because it is unfair.

KatAndKit · 13/11/2011 19:58

I'm so sorry, that must have been massively hard to take in. Of course it hurts and even more so when you have to sound ok and happy about it in front of others.

toomanydinosaurs · 14/11/2011 11:53

I agree completely with what the others have said here. It is very difficult to be happy for others when you have lost a much wanted baby. My colleague announced her twin pregnancy when I lost mine and I can remember feeling that she got 'my' baby (completely irrational I know). It felt so so unfair that someone should get 2 babies when all I wanted was one!

Just remember to give yourself time to grieve as it takes a long time to get over mc. Wish you all the best in future.xx

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