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Miscarriage at 8 weeks, devastated

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misslaughalot · 11/11/2011 12:41

So at 8 weeks it seems I have miscarried our first baby. One scan and 2 blood tests this week have not delivered good news, and i have another blood test and a final scan next week which should confirm it (although i know its all over due to how much im bleeding). I'm 35 and we've been trying to get pregnant since May, and I am completely devastated. My OH has been amazing, even though he doesn't know what to say, he just lets me cry on him and doesn't pressure me to talk about it if I don't want to.

I now just want this part to be over. Each trip to the bathroom is a reminder and I'm returned to a weeping mess. I only told my boss on Tuesday that I was pregnant, then i began bleeding on Tuesday night. We had tried not to get too excited when we saw the positive pregnancy test, but after years of wanting this and a few months of trying its was hard not to start making plans.

I just want to curl up and hide away from everyone. We're supposed to be going to a family night out tonight, but I really don't think I can spend an evening with my OH's parents (knowing how much they want grandchildren) and make it through in one piece.

Thanks for reading, I don't need a reply to this, I just needed to get my thoughts out somewhere. x

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jkklpu · 04/12/2011 09:37

So sorry for all of you who've had MCs. I had one in March at 8 weeks and there were lots of lovely sympathetic ladies on MN. One point I really remember from them is to look after yourselves now, but also to keep an eye on yourselves in the run-up to the EDD and be extra kind to yourselves then as you may be surprised by lots of emotion returning at that point. Well done to those of you who can take some time off/have a short holiday to clear your heads a bit.

Dinosaurdrip · 04/12/2011 19:48

I'm so sorry all of you lovely ladies are
Going through this. I am also in the same situation but waiting for the worst of it. I Went for a scan at what I thought was 6 weeks due to spotting where they dated me at 4 weeks and said I only had an empty sac. Bought me back 1 week later and there is a sac and yolk so good that everything is progressing.

Anyway I started bleeding more at8 weeks, never loads really only when I wiped (sorry) but I went back and they scanned me again and can see a 6 week embryo, no heartbeat. This was on Tuesday, have to go back this coming Tuesday to scan again but have had a few clots of blood today but still no massive blood loss.

Please can someone tell me what I should expect, it's quite scary I'm just kinda expecting a really big rush of blood but like I say it is nothing really.

baublelugs82 · 04/12/2011 21:23

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Beamur · 04/12/2011 21:32

Sorry for all of you going through this - Dinosaurdrip - my m/c was a lot like a very heavy and painful period, lots of cramp and contractions. Be prepared with towels etc, take some pain relief and snuggle up somewhere warm and comfortable. Don't be in a rush to do anything you don't want to do.
Getting over a m/c is like a grieving period for a lot of people, you've lost the hopes and dreams you had with that child.
Lots of women who m/c do go on to have healthy babies.

baublelugs82 · 04/12/2011 21:33

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Beamur · 04/12/2011 21:48

It was about 5 years ago now, so am slightly hazy on the exact details - I think I took 2 weeks off work. The m/c was natural, I had started to bleed very lightly, had a scan and was told it was a missed m/c. The light bleeding continued for a couple of days then got very heavy - but the heavy part was maybe only a day or so, then it continued very much like a normal period for another few days - maybe 10 days in all? I recall I had a couple more days at home after the bleeding had stopped before I went back to work - I really did not want to have to deal with the reminder of what was happening whilst I was at work.

baublelugs82 · 04/12/2011 21:51

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Beamur · 04/12/2011 21:59

That doesn't seem unreasonable. Take care xx

Dinosaurdrip · 04/12/2011 23:31

Thanks Beamur and bauble bleeding got heavier after I asked the question and there were a few big clots. Have been having cramps on and off all day but got worse this evening. Am glad it's all started properly now in some respects so I can start to accept and move forward.

My 2ds must be wondering what's going on as I have been clinging to them and just telling them every 2 minutes how much I love them. They are what keep me going and I feel so thankful and lucky to have them.

Thank you for recounting your experience beamur I imagine it is difficult no matter how long ago, but it has helped me and I am extremely grateful. Bauble Thank you for answering also I really hope you get the time off and can enjoy Christmas . Xxx

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Stuntnun · 29/02/2012 21:27

Just thought I'd update the thread. After the MMC in December I have had a BFP this week so better luck this time I hope!

muchchocolate · 01/03/2012 10:29

Hi Stuntnun

Just been reading this thread as I've just had a mc at 8 weeks and also have 2ds just now. I wanted to wish you all the best for this pregnancy, thats great news, I hope its a happy, uneventful pregnancy for you.

HaveToWearHeels · 01/03/2012 15:10

Stuntnun GREAT NEWS thanks for sharing, I love these possitive updates. I had MMC in Jan, still waiting for AF to return though :o(

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