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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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not sure I can do this again

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lemonsherbet · 01/11/2011 21:41

I am pregnant for the 3rd time. No living children and now aged 35. Had my first miscarriage last nov at 8weeks. Then had my second miscarriage at 20 weeks in May and now I am 6 weeks pregnant and spotting and cramping.

I do not think I can go through this again. Sorry just needed to rant

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philbee · 01/11/2011 22:01

I'm so sorry. That's really hard. Have you been to the EPU / A&E etc.? Have you got people there to help you?

We are TTCing vaguely after mc in July and I think all the time that I can't face it happening again and why are we trying. It's a horrible horrible thing.

Moominsarescary · 01/11/2011 23:09

I'm so sorry, this has happened to you, I've had to early mc at 8 weeks and a late one at 20 so understand how hard it is.

Have you been able to make an appointment to see the gp/ epu to find out what is happening

pebspop · 02/11/2011 12:47

lemon you have similar history to me. i had mc@12 weeks in nov followed by mc@20 weeks in july. i am waiting till xmas to start again - hoping it will work out next time but you never know.

did you have tests after the 20 week mc? what were the results? are you doing anything different this time?

lola4lee · 02/11/2011 12:58

So sorry for your losses and I will keep my fingers crossed for you this time best of luck xx

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lemonsherbet · 02/11/2011 18:55

Had lots of tests after the 20week miscarriage. Genetic, PM, autoimmune, thyroid, diabetes, thrombiphilia screen,swabs, placenta examined etc all came back normal. So they said this time to take aspirin they thought it couldn't hurt. But thought it was just bad luck. Bleeding getting heavier, so looks like it is just a matter of time. Saw GP EPAU is closed on wednesdays!!!

Asked to be referred to recurrent miscarriage clinic. GP said they were unlikely to do anymore tests then were done after 20 week loss. So likely they will just be repeated. So we have said we will go private to see someone. Have looked online and was thinking of Mr Shehata. Does anyone have any experience of him

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HarriedWithChildren · 02/11/2011 22:14

I'm sorry this is happening to you. We're waiting for our recurrent MC clinic appointment after 3rd. Like you, I feel disheartened and unsure whether to carry on. I read somewhere that if no "reason" is found at testing it does mean just bad luck and that it may stick eventually so I'm trying to find encouragement there.

pebspop · 03/11/2011 10:50

lemon if you are mc'ing i would be asking them to do chromosone testing on the baby if they can. it could be that the baby had a genetic problem this time.

have you read lesley regans miscarriage book? it's all about the testing and things and is very positive that if no reason is found you still have a really good chance of having a baby. it says in there that 1000 couples visit her clinic each year who have found no reason why they are miscarrying and 80% of them have a baby. she puts it down to TLC. they give each woman a scan every week up to 12 weeks and this level of care helps them.

my hospital will be giving me this level of care in my next pg. i will be getting my own midwife to see every week and weekly scan at epu.
i did get a reason for my 20 week mc. my placenta had blood clots in it so i will be taking asprin and heparin injection next time to thin my blood.

i have heard good things about dr shehata and lesley regan. you can get referred to lesley regans clinic on nhs.

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lemonsherbet · 03/11/2011 19:20

pebs they already did the chromosome test on him. It was completely normal. I am just very disheartened and thought after my late loss that things had to get better. It would not be fair to get pregnant and miscarry again. Sorry if this sounds self absorbed. The only good thing is that this is happening at 12 weeks

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CaptainNemo · 20/11/2011 21:57

LemonSherbert I've only just seen this thread, I'm so sorry to hear the situation you're in. Like others on here, I've had one first trimester loss and one 2nd (17.5 weeks due to a chromosome abnormality). We then went on to have our gorgeous daughter who is now 2 so it CAN be done. Having said that, am now 10weeks with pg no. 4 and I've been spotting since before I even did a test.... I can really sympathise with what you've been going through, the last weeks have been horrendous and I still have to (somehow) get through another 2 weeks for the nuchal and blood results which is what diagnosed DS's chromosome disorder... Really struggling. So I'm here to hold your hand, will you hold mine too? Hope you're ok.

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lemonsherbet · 21/11/2011 20:20

nemo I went on to miscarry. I really hope this time it works out for you. Lots of people have healthy babies despite bleeding throughout the whole pregnancy. May be you are just one of those people this time round. I hope you are doing OK and good luck in 2 weeks. I am still happy to hold your hand if you want it

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