That's it

[stayathomegardener]

Ok 8 years,3 miscarriages,High natural killer cells,Low sperm count,a year of Dr Shehata, steroids and 6 months of injections and scans I can now say having got my period today THAT IS IT.NO MORE!

I'm 42,I am exhausted and today I am stopping.

Life will be different but hey it might be better.

I have not posted on this topic before but it has been an amazing private support for me and in an important and funny way I wanted to let you all know where I'm up to .

I'm sorry it's come to this for you. I don't know what else to say other than I'm sorry for everything you have gone through.

That's kind thank you cold

All the best for your 'new life'. may it be full of love, excitement and happiness

Fabulous attitude saz,one which I intend to embrace.

Have you DC's already?

It's such a hard decision to make, I've had 3 mc too over the last 4 years and am 39. The thought of 'when do we stop all this' has been in my mind, we won't be stopping yet as I've just had an op to correct a problem with my womb and we want to now gve it a go. I'm kind of thinking another 2 years and then reassess.

Actually not ttc for the last year while we had tests and treatment has been very relaxing. Maybe a few months break and then you could reassess how you feel?

Wow I'm so sorry you have suffered so much. I don't blame you for calling it a day. What's the saying, sometimes we get lost on our way to a dream and end up somewhere even better (or something like that!)
Lots of love

That's a nice saying Dolly, never heard it before.

Good for you stayathome

Our neighbours went through pretty much the same as you, and although they would have loved DC's and been BRILLIANT parents, they have had to accept it and move on. They do have a great life (although constantly saddened by the lack of DC) and a rock solid relationship.

In fact they are guardians for our children as they are so wonderful. I am sure the same could be said for you.

I do have DD 12 and partly it makes it easier to stop,for her sake as well as mine.

In the 8 years we have had complete breaks because as you must know it overwhelms you

39 is still young in my eyes

dolly

I'm sorry it has come to this point for you, you seem to have a very positive attitude and I hope the future brings you lots of happiness x

Just to say stayathome that I admire you greatly.

I am 43, one DS (3y5m) and we've been trying again since he turned 1. 3 MMCs and 1 CP later, no joy, and it's been feckin' ages since a sniff of a BFP.

I know there's still a tiny chance it could happen, but realistically it's very unlikely now, unless we consider donor eggs. Had set next May as a stop point, as that'll be 3 years, and more crucially that would be the last chance to have (deliver) a baby before I'm 45.

So I tip my hat to you, raise my glass to you and wish you all the very very best. x

So sorry it has come to this for you and what a brave decision.

Thank you jollster and georgimama,I never thought of it as brave and admirable,what lovely words and much better to look at it that way