Missed Miscarriage Experiences

[JessieOg]

I found out two days ago that I have had a missed miscarriage. I was 10 weeks. I had some light spotting from 7 weeks onwards but then started bleeding more heavily on Tuesday night. I went to the EPU on Wednesday morning, they scanned me and found that the mmc had happened between 6 and 7 weeks. I have elected to manage it naturally, but I really don't know what to expect now. The lovely, kind sonographer explained that it may well be quite gruesome and painful but that everyone's experience is different. I have been bleeding since but no real pain as yet and just wondered what other people's experiences have been. The hardest part is being stuck at home not knowing what will happen, when. I'm prepared for it to be hard, so please don't feel you will be scaring me. I really just want to know what might happen and so if any of you feel able to share their experience, I would be really grateful.

Thank you Cristina, that really has helped me. I have been worrying what to do when May '12 rolls around and, although I doubt I will be trekking, you have certainly inspired me!

It is just so sad that anyone should experience this, tragic that it is so common and fills me with pride that women everwhere are being so brave in the face of such devastating loss. As wellies put it so well, a very moving read. Thank you again.

Just logged in and saw this thread. I had a missed miscarriage in December last year. I was 12 weeks (just due to go for my scan on the Friday and started bleeding on the Monday). I had a scan on the Tuesday and it showed the embryo had stopped growing at around 7 weeks. I opted to miscarry naturally (seeing as it seemed to have started already) but no-one warned me how painful it would be. I was really shocked as it was just like labour when it really kicked in. That lasted a few hours and I spent a lot of time in the bath tying to soothe the pain (which did work to some extent). I then had to go back on New Year's eve to check I didn't have any 'retained product'. That was hard as, as seems to be so common an experience, I was in a waiting room waiting to be scanned having to watch other pregnant ladies celebrating scan photos etc (that's why it's great to hear about the miscarriage campaign). I did have some retained product but was told it was so little that it would come out with my next period. Fortunately my period returned around 4 weeks after the miscarriage. I fell pregnant again in Feb/March and miscarried again. This time around 5 weeks with no pain (like a late period. I never would have known if I hadn't done a test so early but who can resist when you really want to be pregnant??!) I was very lucky as I then fell pregnant again the following month and, so far so good, I'm expecting a baby girl on Christmas day so, hopefully this Christmas will be better than the last one! I hope this helps as I know it's a hideous experience to go through. I also know how awful it was not knowing when if at all I would fall pregnant again successfully. I wish you all the very best.

wellies/skinnymuffin - I'm glad it has helped. It was quite hard writing it all down (it was a while ago and I try not to think about it if I can help it) but actually I found it really cathartic. I hope you both ( and everyone on this thread) are able to recover relatively quickly from your horrible experiences.

skinny - I really related to that bit you said about how you cope when everyone has stopped fussing.

Thinking of you all x

Hi JessieOg/rain dancer, I'm 4 weeks down the natural management route, opted against ERPC for same reasons I think. Physically it must be different for everyone, but here's how mine has been so far: light bleeding on a Thurs, hospital confirmed mmc (should have been 12 wks, it grew to 8 wks). Painful night on Friday, like painful period but in waves (contractions?), think I passed the sac... Passed some matter anyway. Saturday fine, Sunday evening in a lot of pain, painkillers didn't touch it. Had following week off work. All this time bleeding was just like a period really, exhausting though. presumed it was all done with after bleeding gradually got lighter, but one morning last week woke up in agony. Bled very heavily (felt like it was gushing/flowing!) for a couple of hours. Very scary, most pain I've been in. passed a few large lumps, painful/odd sensation! All stopped by lunchtime. Now, a week after that, don't know what to expect. I really wish I was given some kind of proper guidance eg a "what's normal" guide, maybe some people would've called an ambulance at my experience last week. , thanks for reading, feels weird to write all this, as it's still very much the present for me. All the best to everyone x

Thanks susey for sharing your experience. I hope it is all coming to an end for you now and that you will soon be able to move on. I had my missed miscarriage diagnosed on 5 October when I should have been 10 +2, although the miscarriage had happened between 6 and 7 weeks. Since then, having elected to manage it naturally, I had bled up until last Friday but then stopped bleeding altogether and nothing seemed to be happening. As I would have been 12 weeks yesterday, ie 6 weeks down the line since the missed miscarriage, I went for a scan only to discover that the sac was still present. At that stage I felt I just couldn't put my life and work on hold any longer, particualrly as nothing was happening, and decided the time had come to have the ERPC. I went in yesterday afternoon to have it done and it went absolutely fine. I am a little disappointed not to have been able to continue to manage naturally, but I think I made the right decision in the end as I kind of just needed to move on, and I think there is no right or wrong answer to these things. Thanks again to all of you for sharing your painful experiences. It means the world to me that you have taken the time. As everyone has said, it is that much easier if you have some idea of what might happen. Wishing all of you luck in the future.

Sorry to hear you couldn't keep going down the natural route, Raindancer, but am glad you've looked on it as an opportunity to move forwards, little step at a time. Wishing you luck in the future too and fingers crossed, we'll end up on the pregnancy boards again in the not too distant future. All the best.

Thanks wellies - right back at ya x

I'll second that wellies! And quite right raindancer, there are no rights or wrongs, just what feels best for you at the time. Here's to the future :)