found out 13+5 no heatbeat.

[kayb123]

now would of been 14weeks, scan said baby stopped growing at 8 weeks, first told me to get re-scanned in two weeks then think of other 'ways' to deal with the situation.. As the 'thing' (just cant say it, as still unsure how im feeling/coping) has been there a while i phoned and demanded a d&c, now booked for wednesday. I just dont know how i feel about everything.. guess just shocked i never noticed and worried incase i start bleeding and encounter problems.
I just keep thinking about it, but wondering why nothing has happened before now and how stupid i am for not noticing when i have children already.

So sorry for your loss kayb.

You're not stupid! Why would you notice anything? Maybe there was nothing to notice. That's why they use ultrasound scans, because they find things you can't see any other way.

Sorry for your loss :(

You're not stupid. I was told the same thing at 11 weeks, my baby died at 6 weeks. It's awful to be going along thinking everything is OK and then find out that it isn't. All mcs are cruel but this is the cruelest.

I had an ERPC and found that was the easiest way of coping. It's usually a day procedure although I had an overnight stay due to high bmi. It was such a relief to have the physical side over with, I couldn't have coped with waiting to see what happened next.

I wasn't offered the second scan as there was such a discrepancy between the dates, not sure why it seems common practice in some places but not others.

Take it one day at a time, do whatever you need to do to get through. But you're definitely not stupid x