So sorry to hear your bad news. Having had a miscarriage too, I can only tell you it does get easier to cope with. Unlike you I had bleeding, but between having that bleeding and a scan, I still had to wait for my ERPC.
In that time my body took matters into it's own hands and I bled heavily for a few days (not continuously, but when I was bleeding I had to remain in the loo).
I called the hospital, and they told me I'd done most of it myself and to come in for a scan to make sure everything was gone. They also said that doing it naturally is better for your body, while distressing. They said I may still need an ERPC tho. Luckily the scan showed my womb was empty.
Like you I felt I couldn't grieve until it was over.
I guess what I'm saying is, although the wait for the ERPC is long, you might not need your ERPC if your body does it itself.
At my follow-up appointment, the Dr said just because I had had one miscarriage did not mean I was any more likely to have another. He also said we could start trying again as soon as I'd had a period.
I lost my precious baby at 12 weeks in May last year. I fell pregnant again August Bank holiday. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant. The first 12 weeks was terrifying and exciting at the same time. I was so happy to be pregnant again but I had some spotting, and had to go for blood tests and an early scan, which showed everything to be ok.
You must look after yourself, and allow yourself time to grieve. We never forget the ones we lose.... But the loss gets easier to bear.
Take care.... Xx