ERPC or medically managed?

[LittleWhiteWolf]

Hi all,

had a scan today at 11.3 to find that my baby stopped growing around 8 weeks. Not surprised overly given the bleeding and just a general bad feeling, but still saddened by the mmc.
Have been sent home with a pamphlet on my options, and I'm torn between the surgical or medical procedures. Has anyone got any advice, having been through one or both before? I'd really appreciate anyones input.
Thanks

I'm so very sorry for your loss, it's still an awful shock and you will grieve even if you half expected it.

I've had to mc's this year. The first was a mmc like you and I had an erpc. I really didn't take in what they were saying at the epu, but read the leaflet, spoke to my mw and a friend who's a mw and they both advised me to go for the erpc. I'm glad I did as it was the easiest part tbh. I'd never had a ga before but it was fine, and was back in my room half an hour after leaving. Physically the recovery was quick and I had light bleeding for about a week.

My second one was a natural mc at 5+1, so not much help to you.

Look after yourself, it's not easy.

Hi LWW, really sorry to hear about your mmc :(

I had almost the same in January. Was sent home with the leaflets but was only given the choice of natural or surgical. In the end I went for the ERPC. I hated the thought of waiting around for it to happen, my baby died at 6 weeks and I just thought that if nothing had happened in 5 weeks (no bleeding or anything) then there was no guarantee it would happen any time soon. I also had to factor in DD and taking time off work, really didn't want it to start up there.

The ERPC was fine, considering. I have a high bmi so I had an overnight stay but usually it's a day case. Had never had an operation before so was shit scared but actually, physically it was very straightforward and I was glad the physical part was over.

I don't have any experience of medically managed but lots of people here do. I'm sorry you're going through this, it sucks. Take care x

Hi LWW, I am really sorry to hear that you are also having a mmc. It is truly rubbish. I am in the same boat and i wish someone would just make the decision for me.
I have opted for a vacuum procedure under local anaesthetic but i am worrying that i have not made the right choice. I am kind of praying that it starts to happen naturally before thursday (when i am booked in).
xx

Thanks guys. I've opted for the surgery and its booked for the 29th. I couldn't bear waiting especially as its been a few weeks since the baby stopped growing so who knows how long my bloody body will take to catch up. I'm not overly looking forward to Friday, but on the other hand, at least it will be over and I can get on with things afterwards.

Hi LWW

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had the medically mananged procedure yesterday after MMC on Friday. My baby also died at 8 weeks.

I decided not to go surgical as I didn't want anyone messing with me any more than I had to and wanted everything to be as natural as possible without having to wait for it to happen by itself. I would like to try again so didn't want to risk anything going wrong - not that it would but I'm now paranoid about about getting old and running out of time.

Although it was a horrific experience for both myself and my DH I think it has helped to deal with the loss and provide some sort of closure. I would say tho that when you're given the news that your pregnancy has ended and then handed a leaflet about your options it's really hard to take anything in and know that you're doing the right thing.