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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

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Medical miscarriage, what should I be prepared to see?

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CountyClaire · 21/04/2011 20:38

I've chosen to have medical management for my mmc and I'm frightened about what I might see, my baby died at 10 weeks. I'm not worried about the pain because thats just physical if you see what I mean, but frightened what I will see when it all comes out. Am I just going to see lots of blood or will I see anything recognisable as a baby? Not sure I can cope with that so want to know so I can prepare myself.

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pudding25 · 21/04/2011 21:01

I have just had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and an ERPC today. Most of the miscarriage came out itself. It wasn't pleasant but everytime I felt that something was coming out, I sat on the loo and everything went down the toilet so I didn't have to look or see anything.
I hope you are ok.

youretheoneformefatty · 21/04/2011 21:07

Don't want to frighten you but I had an advised termination at 9 weeks. Unfortunately, yes I did see things i didn't want to.

You may not however, I just wanted to be honest with you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's shitty. X

youretheoneformefatty · 21/04/2011 21:13

hairylights · 21/04/2011 21:54

My medical miscarriage was at seven weeks but things had stopped the week before. I saw a lot of blood and I saw a clear jelly like sac with a tiny blip in it. It was much earlier than you though.

I had Erpc at ten weeks a different time because I didn't want to pass and see my baby.

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CountyClaire · 21/04/2011 21:56

Right, just can't get my head around what I might see.

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youretheoneformefatty · 21/04/2011 22:04

I'm hesitant at being too graphic because you may not see anything, but if you look up a picture of what your baby looks like at 10 weeks, this is what I saw.

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CountyClaire · 21/04/2011 22:15

Just done that. Shit.

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youretheoneformefatty · 21/04/2011 23:00

Oh god, I'm sorry. I feel terrible. Sorry.

meliesmummy · 22/04/2011 16:53

I had the same fears as you. I had a mmc at 11 weeks, baby was 8 weeks. In hospital I had to use a bed pan every time I passed anything, I thought that I wouldn't want to see but in the end I did want to...but if you don't want to just cover the pan with a paper towel before you see it. I saw what looked like a little bean with eyes. It helped me to process it all in my head but if you don't want to see it just don't look and cover the bowl quickly.

best wishes xxx

MandaHugNKiss · 22/04/2011 18:35

I was medically managed at 16+5 although the baby's measurements were between 12+6 and 14+1.

Initally, i was desperate for an erpc off the bat, insisting I could NOT see the baby. I felt it would smash me into milion pieces when I was already griefstricken t the idea I was carrying my dead baby round.

It turns out that if your uterus is bigger thn about 12 weeks, it's safest to manage medically and I accepted that I'd have to do it even though I didn't want to.

It would have been quite easy to not see him, but in the end, when I delivered, I was overcome with a real need to see him. And he was beautiful. It bought me a peace I could never have imagined to see him and spend a little time just taking him in.

What I'm trying to say is, you're being medically manged for a reason - question what that is. if it really is best physically for you, then you cn get through it without seeing much. You'll be given pns to use over the toilet and it'll be more thn possible to cover it/not look. But conversely, you may feel differently when it truly comes down to it.

Try not to be scared.

(oh, and with regards to the physical pain, my hospital were very on top on managing it - you shouldn't have to suffer too much even if it is just physical )

LilPud · 27/04/2011 11:58

I had medically managed yesterday and altho I knew when the baby had passed it certainly wasn't anything I would recognise as a baby. Nothing could be worse than seeing the scan that confirmed my loss.

What I would say is be prepared for the blood and have plenty of pads, pants and bottom halves with you. When the time comes you'll need these.

As for the pain yes it hurts but the MWs are on hand to help you with pain relief with everything from paracetomol to morphine to gas & air.

so sorry for your loss.

kat2504 · 10/05/2011 09:28

I didn't see that much. The reason for this was that I was sitting on the commode for much of the time and the nurse could change the pans and take them away without me seeing.
After that I had to use cardboard pans in the toilet bowl and I saw some large clots, and had a few smaller ones when I was back home that went down the loo.
But I didn't see the worst of it due to using the commode in the room not the toilet, and staying sat on it until the pan had been removed.

I found it excruciatingly painful and was only given useless gas and air and co-codamol. If I am unfortunate enough to miscarry again I will go straight for erpc.

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