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Went for a Scan today...My longed for baby has no heartbeat

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vickytheviking75 · 07/04/2011 19:09

I am 8 weeks and 5 days pregnant. I have been getting pains on and off for 4 weeks, was on bed rest, but the last week i have felt ok pains nearly gone. Went to the scan this morning, and at first the lady who was scanning me was smiling, then suddenly not. I looked at the screen and saw my baby bean was not moving and no heartbeat. I am devastated. We suffered a miscarriage nearly 3 years ago. Decided only a few months back to try again. Its really hard, cant put into words how i feel. Tomorrow I have to go back to the hospital to take the 1st tablet, Then 48 hours later go into hospital to have the 2nd dose and to pass my baby. Myself and my husband really want our own child. I have 3 older children from a previous marriage who are fantastic and my world. I had to tell them a few hours ago when they came home from school. I had no problems with them, but I was a lot younger when they were born (i am 35 now). Just in shock, cant believe this is happening, i am not even bleeding. They said its a silent miscarriage.

Vicky x

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FoofffyShmoofffer · 07/04/2011 19:14

Oh Vicky, so so sorry to hear thisSad. For you and DH.

Please take care of yourself.

ElsieR · 07/04/2011 19:15

Really sorry for you x

ivykaty44 · 07/04/2011 19:17

Sad for you and know there is nothing I can say to make it better x

MagicGenie · 07/04/2011 19:20

Sending a hug x

TheJollyPirate · 07/04/2011 19:23

Oh Vicky I am so sorry to hear this - I went through similar before I had my son and it's an awful moment when they tell you no heartbeat.

You are 35 and it's not the end of fertility - my son was born when I was nearly 37 and I have seen mothers 45+ as a midwife (am an ex-midwife now).

Silent miscarriage is what they said to me too. Thinking of you. xx

vickytheviking75 · 07/04/2011 19:27

Thanks everyone for you thoughts, its appreciated x

Jollypirate my Mum In Law was with me today for my scan and shes also a midwife, just about to retire end of this year and she said the same, that shes sees women much older than me having babies. At the moment I cant even think of this. I have the worst to come in the next few days and Im scared.

Vicky xx

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kat2504 · 07/04/2011 19:43

I'm so sorry, it is absolutely devastating I know. I had the same last year at 9+5, having pains, no bleeding and then no heartbeat. There isn't much more I can say as nothing makes it better but I hope you take time to grieve and look after yourself and your feelings. It does take time to get over but as others have said, 35 isn't game over for fertility and you may well find that you want to try again. Even after 2 mc, the odds are still well in your favour the third time. That doesn't make it any easier now as it doesn't change the fact that you have lost your baby. But it may make it easier in months to come.
Take care of yourself, wishing you a speedy recovery.

BuckBuckMcFate · 07/04/2011 19:44

So sorry for you x

orangehead · 07/04/2011 19:46

Im so sorry Vicky.

largeginandtonic · 07/04/2011 19:50

So sorry to hear this Vicky Sad

I had the same a year ago. It is so awful. I had no pains but the normal sickness had gone and i just knew all was not well.

I hope it all goes as well as it can in the next few day's. It is so heartbreaking telling the children.

Much love to you.

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