Sex after Miscarriage

[EddiesGirl]

Hi there,

This is my first post here, ironically I didn't think my first post would be after a miscarriage! Hey ho, such is life.

Anyway, my first pregnancy sadly ended with a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks. The day I should have been having an Oscar and telling the world my happy news, I was having the op instead.

A week on and I'm doing ok. I had a strange 'post op high', where I felt suddenly positive about everything, followed by a wobble the next day. I was playing bowling & losing & for once in my life I wanted to win at something, not pretend to be happy.

Anyway, I'm drawing some comfort in the fact I'm told you're very fertile after a m/c & want to 'get back in the saddle'! I've been told to wait 2 weeks after the D&C to have sex, but wondered if anyone else had been through this & if they had had sex sooner. I just want to feel normal again & part of my normal life, is my normal sex life.

Reading through the various posts has been hugely comforting, I read somewhere about how a lot of women after m/c say they feel they have nothing to look forward to - me too! But then, part of that, I think is one step at a time. In truth, there are lots of nice things in the diary, it's just I thought they would be nice things with a baby on the way.

The truth is, life threw me a curve ball and I just need to roll with it. Without going to 'zen' I think I need to enjoy the here & now again. And part of that here & now is being naked with my lovely man. :-)

So then, sex after miscarriage - your thoughts anyone? X

As soon as I was physically back to normal we went for it. I conceived my dd the same month I sent a night in hospital mcing at 8 weeks.
Sorry to hear what you have been through. I have been through the same and it does get better ( and getting naked with your man is an ideal medicine)

I waited a week or so but just took it very carefully and it was fine. I also heard you were very fertile after a MC and clung to that. It ended up taking 11 months to conceive our DD and i found that really hard as people had said how fertile you after mc. Be positive in that you know you can get PG but don't expect it will happen soon or you may get very disappointed when AF arrives. It will happen, and maybe quickly, but it may take a while for your body to heal itself.
It's hard to be positive and relaxed but I'm sure if you got PG once, it will happen again for you
good luck

EddiesGirl -sorry this is your first post on here. My first post was on the mc threads too. I was planning on joining the pg thread after my 12 week scan but unfortunately my 12 week scan showed a mmc. I had an ERPC 3 weeks ago and I was told you could have sex once the bleeding stops. My beeding stopped about 10 days after!! Need I say any more!!!

Hi Eddiesgirl,

You should wait until you've totally stopped bleeding, but other than than that no reason why you can't.

You're advised to wait until your first af to ttc, but in my opinion that's more for their dating purposes.

I had a mmc in Jan, and got a bfp in March. Unfortunately mc'd again, but earlier this time, but we're trying again.

Good luck.