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Just MCd at 10 weeks - dont know how i am feeling

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Summerbird73 · 18/03/2011 09:22

Started spotting on saturday night, then started bleeding and cramping on Monday night, it got much worse on Tuesday morning so went to A&E and spent 2 days in hospital on a drip.

A scan on Wednesday morning confirmed the bean had gone. I thought i would be fine but i am up and down all the time. Sometimes i feel ok then i feel like shit.

We have a 21mo DS who is usually an absolute star but he has been pushing me and DH to the limits since i got home from hospital. I know he obviously 'gets' that something is up, but we are really struggling with him. DH is also up and down.

We thought we would be ok with it as we have DS and if that is all we have then that is great.

I dont know what i am asking really - think i just needed to get this all down in black and white.

Neither DH nor I know how we are feeling - just flat at the moment - we feel worse today than we have all week Sad

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Mitzimaybe · 30/03/2011 15:54

Sorry ladies, have been offline for days. Hope you're all doing OK.

Summerbird73 and freelancegirl, unfortunately the brown stuff never stopped completely for me. It was relatively light and sometimes there would be nothing for a few hours then a bit more for the next few hours. Then yesterday turned dark red again and heavier. I think it's too soon to be my period (2 weeks today since confirmation the sac had been passed) so I don't know what's going on.

I don't have any signs of infection (smelly discharge, feverish) so I'm not too worried - it's not like I'm losing massive amounts of blood - and just waiting to see what happens. I remember reading someone else had the exact same thing on another thread so I'm assuming it's normal.

theressomethingaboutmarie · 30/03/2011 16:15

I just mc'd at 11 weeks (I'm crying as I type this as writing it down makes it so real). I started bleeding last Thursday at work and arranged to see EPAU on Friday. They confirmed that nothing had happened after 4 weeks (despite getting ALL of the symptoms I'd had when expecting DD). I had ERPC on Monday and like many of you, I just feel flat. My DD and DH are amazing and bring me so much joy but I feel joyless. When will I feel better?

freelancegirl · 30/03/2011 17:07

Hi marie so sorry to hear about what you are going through. I have been 'talking' to so many girls on here who are going through exactly the same thing - on both this and other threads if you look out for them. Try reading the one called something along the lines of 'describe discharge of miscarriage' as that has a lot of posts from all of us going through it.

As for when you will feel better. Well, obviously this is very much a personal thing but for myself I feel a LOT better a week and a half after it stared and a week after passing the sac. I was an emotional wreck for several days, not to mention in severe pain with contractions before it was confirmed. And then seeing that awful scan with nothing moving. BUT I have to say I now feel a lot better. The first few days are weird, getting used to not being pregnant as well as all the physical changes, but you slowly get used to this.

One thing I have noticed is that it is good to have things to look forward to and to keep thinking positively and move forward. Certain things will get up and bite you on the ass - seeing babies everywhere, friends getting pregnant.... but overall you will feel very much better in a week or so, I promise.

Physically I am still bleeding a bit and although sometimes feel great, I tire quite easily and have the occasional dizzy spell, but it is all getting better and it will for you too xx

theressomethingaboutmarie · 31/03/2011 08:55

Freelance, thank you for taking the time to reply. I went through a series of contractions on Saturday and Sunday prior to the ERPC on Monday which was incredibly painful (I thought I was going to vomit from the pain). I am going out with a friend tonight (this was already planned) to try to get 'back to normal'. We're also focussing upon the opportunities that present themselves (can now do what we like for our late summer holiday etc).

Thanks again for taking the time to respond, I hope that you feel 'back to normal' soon too.

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