MMC and unwell - any advice?

[Rupsje]

Hello everyone

I had my 12 week scan today and was told I would probably have a miscarriage - fetal pole was only 6mm. I have to go back next week for a second scan and then, presumably, a decision on how to deal with actual miscarrying. I have had no bleeding.

I am extremely upset, and on top of that I am worried about the following: for the past few days, I have had a severe cold with fever and lower back pain. I have also been diagnosed with a urinary tract infection for which I am taking antibiotics. My question is: among all these other issues, will I recognise the symptoms of an infection in my womb if I have one? Or would they have seen it on the scan? As well as being devastated I am now worried things are going on in my body which will stop me from ever getting pregnant again.

Thank you for any advice.

So sad for you :(.

I think in your current situation, already taking antibiotics you shouldn't really get an infection in the womb. I'm not sure about the scan and whether it would show something up if there was an infection to see but would think it would - although someone more knowledgeable in this will have to help out here?

There is nothing that you say that stands out as a reason as to why you will not be able to get pregnant again - I just think you've had incredibly bad luck and wish you all the best for a healthy pregnancy soon xxx

Thank you for your kind message. You are right: the antibiotics would probably help for something like that as well. Very reassuring.

I think my mind is spinning out of control a bit at the shock of it all. Thank you again for your help.

I am so sorry for you too,
I had a MMC quite a few years ago and at the time felt so sad that my pregnancy had failed to progress and obviously worried that I would not have another child.
I went to have more children, without any complications so perhaps this will be a little piece of hope for you during this sad time.
My advice to you is to allow time to accept your loss, and perhaps mark it in a way that feels comfortable for you, perhaps by writing about it, or talking to those that will understand or even planting something.
Above all be kind to yourself and allow yourself space to weep and be sad.

Thank you very much iwastooearlytobeayummymummy, for your very nice message.

This morning was horrible as somehow I had managed to have a really deep sleep and when I woke up I remembered what had happened, and got upset all over again. Throughout the day the strangest things make me cry. For example, a friend reminded me we are having lunch on Sunday, which upset me as I had planned to go and have a first look at maternity clothes after that lunch.

It is going to take a while to get over this. It is so nice to have this forum as support.

Life will be horrible for you for the foreseeable future,and that is perfectly normal.
The end of a much wanted pregnancy is dreadful and a miscarriage is still so poorly understood, so I expect your mind is whirling with all sorts of 'if's and but only's'.
As I said yesterday be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to come to terms with your loss.
You have been briused and your body and soul have been challenged.
You will recover in time, but at this stage just keep looking after yourself.

best wishes xx