When does it get better?

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

I've been crying all day, ERPC was 5 weeks ago and I feel worse than ever. I can't go on like this.

I am so sorry.

It does get better, but there are ups and downs. I remember dipping particularly badly at around the five week mark too. It is just shit

so sorry

It gets better very slowly, and there are days when you think you are getting there, and then the next day or hour takes you by surprise and puts you down again -some days can be one step forward, ten steps back

lots of people on here have been through it and can listen and support you, feel free any time, and I hope you have lots of support in RL as well

(((hugs)))

Thank you. DH has been really sweet today although I was on my own a lot which didn't help. I think it takes him a bit by surprise when I'm upset but once he realises then he comes to the rescue. It's done and dusted for him, he says so himself. Sometimes I feel like I'm moving on and then wham, it hits me again. Waiting for AF doesn't help, I just want that over with.

Oh lovely, why didn't you email/fb? We could have sobbed together yesterday, sounds like the day for it.

I got very upset yesterday about something that happened (in the other post, don't want to hijack yours), and it certainly took me by surprise just how very bad it made me feel. It's like you say above, you think you're moving and then wham.

Lots of (((()))'s

My ERPC was 3 weeks ago today - I started bleeding a week before. There hasn't been a day that I haven't shed a tear, either with DH or in secret. DH isn't home from work yet so I've had an evening in alone (except 21 month old DD in bed). I've been sobbing like anything and nearly made it worse by watching that 'One born every minute' - I didn't dare.

Hugs for you - I hope you will get 'there' one day, like I hope I will. It's crap, shitty, and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I'm back at work this week - I'm a paediatric nurse, and I'm absolutely dreading it.

Take lots of care - and from what I've heard from many friends who have gone through this - it just takes time.

(... and I love your name, I now want to be DarrellRivers!)

sausagemashnpeas I'm so sorry you're going through it and can totally identify with how you're feeling. I've been watching OBEM, don't know why I insist on torturing myself like that, I can't help it.

I hope work is bearable, luckily I only work with schoolchildren and they don't have any effect on me!

As for the name, I don't know why I chose the one that everyone hates...I always felt a bit sorry for her...

But, giving you virtual hugs and chocolate. One day at a time, remember.

Sorry to hear there's so many of us feeling the same at the moment.

My MC was 4 weeks ago last Friday and AF arrived on Sunday :( I know I should try and take the positive from this but it just seemed like another nasty reminder that I'm not longer pg. Despite having MC confirmed at EPU, and a negative pg test afterwards, my brain was still thinking it could all be a mistake until AF.

Anyway, feeling miserable but must be doing really well on the surface. No one has mentioned it to me for the last 2 weeks (including DH),I know it's easier for everyone else to think I'm ok so I'm going along with it. Reading what people have posted on here is very helpful so I know I'm not alone.

GwendolineMaryLacey I hope you start feeling a bit better soon, waiting for AF is horrible, although I felt worse on Sunday I am now able to think about TTC again which is helping me feel a bit better.

It does get easier. So sorry you are feeling like this. The bad days get fewer and further between.

Gwendoline i am so sorry you are having a hard time, i hope you are feeling a bit better than sunday, glad DH is looking after you. I hope it at least reassures you that you are not alone in feeling this way, i know i do as sometimes i feel like i am losing it. I am just as wellie described, having a good day one day, thinking i am getting past it, and then bam the next day (or indeed moment) i am a quivering sobbing mess. Last monday was my real low - over 6 weeks since my mc but just couldn't stop crying, and i was at work.

It is getting easier, although some days it doesn't feel that way, but as hairy said the bad days get further apart.