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Losing our Michael

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Amajane · 17/02/2011 20:47

On the 9th of July 2010 i went to hospital as my waters had broke and could not wait to hold my baby in how ever many hours time. To the shock we where told our baby had no heart beat and a day later our little man was born. Sice that day all i do is phone and bully people.we had to wait over a month to get our son back and his funeral booked. I had to phone birminghan hospital 3 time in October to find out why we had not herd anything. I then get an appoyment on the 13th of october to be told not to have any children at the moment as i may have a gean dfalt.I then have to phone harrow hospital as they forgot to book me an appoyment with the gentic councler. Finally got to she them in december to be told we should have the test done by July advise me not to have another baby. But not to worry i got plently of time. Its ok i only have a nursery full of baby stuff that i walk past every day. That im a nusery nurse and gone back to work full time and finally that all my friends either have babies or are having babies. The NHs sucks Amanda Holden looks like she may have the same as me bet she won't be forgotton about like i am.If i don't phone and moan im left in the dark. I sound strong but im getting so tried and my heart Aches i lost my Dad to cancer 5 months before losing my Baby Michael.

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twirlymum · 17/02/2011 21:01

So so sorry to hear what you have been through.

Sadly no advice really, except to recommend SANDS, they were a great source of help for my friend who went through a very similar tragedy to you.

Stay strong.

LyraBelaqua · 17/02/2011 21:06

I'm so sorry to hear what has happened to you how heart breaking. I cant offer any words of condolence as no words would be enough. Michael is a lovely name for your son xx I hope all goes well for you in the future and the NHS hurries up and gets you all the appointments and any treatment you need

sweetlucy · 18/02/2011 16:59

Hi
I'm so sorry for your loss. So much time waiting and hoping to end up without a baby, it's awful.
I lost my baby at 37 weeks in November and am still waiting for the autopsy results. Had to call the hospital over and over, make my own appointments and answer the question "how old is your baby now?" a dozen of times.
I'm disgusted with the lack of care given to us when losing our baby was so traumatic.
I hope you get all your results soon.
Lucyx

Patchworkpumpkin · 18/02/2011 22:30

I'm so sorry for your loss amajane - its awful being in limbo and not having any answers.

We lost our baby at 20 weeks gestation in October - only just got out appointment through to meet with consultant regarding tests and PM results and its still another 3 weeks away.

I really hope you get your results through soon and can start TTC x

anon1110 · 19/02/2011 16:09

Hi,

Just wondering if you had a post mortem done on your little boy, as this can provide the answers you are looking for, with my daughter it took about 5 months to get the results back.

I can see why you feel this way about your treatment as Iam also on the receiving end of the dodgy nhs.

Just keep onto them as it has been long enough now withput answers.

Sending hugs xx

Amajane · 04/04/2011 22:24

Hi more Sadness loss my Grandad too but think my grandad gave God a kick up the Arss. Sit down everyone got my results back 4 months early. I do have a gean dfalt and can take my first steps to trying for another baby. Nothing will replace Michael but his brother and sisters in the future will thank him for helping them.

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