Waiting for natural MC

[RockyB]

I started bleeding last week, had a scan on Thursday to confirm baby died at 7 weeks (which was 2 weeks ago). I have to go back to the hospital in 2 weeks time to make sure everything has cleared. To be fair, the midwife was very nice and said if it ever got too much I was to call the EPU and they could admit me. However, I'd prefer to let nature take its course at home.

In the meantime I feel completely in limbo. I had very heavy bleeding on thursday and passed several large clots, but the hospital told me I still had the sac to pass. Since then I've had intermittent very bad pain, but not passed any sizeable matter.

Luckily work have been great and have told me to have at least another week off.

I just don't feel I can do anything - went out on Saturday and had to come home after an hour because I wanted the sanctuary of my trackie bottoms and hot water bottle,....

It would be really nice to hear some shared experiences of a natural miscarriage, because at the moment I feel so frustrated and down.

RockyB
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a miscarriage. It's really not much fun, is it.
You say that you haven't passed the sac yet, but are you sure? At 7 weeks, it is very small. Only about 1 cm across and quite flat. It will slip out easily without you noticing.
I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks a few years ago. I did find it, but I had look pretty hard for it and only could because I use a mooncup. (Too much information. Sorry)

This is such a personal experience. Everyone deals with it in their own way.
If you only feel like staying at home with a hot water bottle in your trackie bottoms, you should do exactly that.
It's wonderful that your work are being so supportive.

I was quite upset by my miscarriage, but I tried to see it in a positive light too.
I knew that my baby was not perfect and it couldn't survive. I was happy that the miscarriage had happened so early so as to cause me few problems and to have no need for medical help.
I had been trying to conceive for more than a year with no luck, so I was also happy to know that I COULD conceive at all. That was a big relief.

In my case, I was pregnant again within 6 weeks and am now the proud mum of two small people.
I'm sure that will happen for you too.
It's hard now, but you will soon bounce back. Just take whatever time you need. :)

firstly im sorry you are having to go through this, ive had 2 mc's wich were very different the first was noticed at 11 weeks but the baby had died at 8 weeks, it was incredibly painful and i lost a lot of blood and had to have an emergency ERPC but the 2nd was noticed at 8 but the baby had died at 5 weeks, it was only as bad as a strong period and i only just noticed the sack in the toilet, it could have easily been missed, i hope yours doesnt get too bad and you should just do whatever feels right for you x

RockyB

I'm new to this but have just been reading through a few of the posts and felt I had to reply to your message. I hope things are a bit brighter as two weeks have passed since you wrote but I will share what happened to me so you know you are not alone.

I had a miscarriage on Xmas Eve 2010 at 7weeks :( . I'd been spotting for most of December so knew it wasn't right but the bleeding got progressively worse. That afternoon I was passing clots and replacing a night towel every half an hour. I checked the loo each time and noticed the jelly like blob (the size of a blueberry like all the books say) so knew I had lost the baby. I'm diabetic too and as I was losing so much blood and my sugars were so low I ended up in A+E on a drip until the early hours of Xmas day.

I then had to wait four days before I was scanned again where they confirmed I had lost the baby but still had tissue to pass. Those days seemed to go on forever and involved mixed emotions from relief that if it wasn't meant to be it was best it happened earlier in the pregnancy combined with anger and upset at all the pregnant women I saw and blame that it happened because of something I'd done wrong.

You just have to do what feels best for you, whether you feel like going out and behaving like nothing has happened or staying in on the sofa and having a good cry. My husband has been so supportive and it has confirmed that we are both ready for children. We're now going through the stresses of ov tests and working out cycles as I've been a little all over the place since the m/c

I wish you all the best with everything. These pages are so valuable as they confirm that you are not alone, m/c is awful but dreadfully common and I feel that little bit better reading and learning from other people's posts. I have my fingers crossed that you are on the road to recovery like I am.

Lots of love xxx

rocky,

i'm so sorry to hear of your loss hun, you will feel better, i promise xxx

remember it's nothing you did - sometimes it's just not meant to be - you'll get there when it's meant to happen.

massive hugs - you will get through this. the same thing happened to me in jan xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx