Did i have a mis?

[bally2]

Hi,

About 5 years ago, I was going out with an ex-boyfriend (my current dp and I had broken up for about a year). We had unprotected sex(condom split). About 4 weeks later, i had really bad cramps in back and tum, i was bent over in pain. I started to bleed and then passed a sac like thing. it was about 2 inches in length and maybe an inch in width (sorry tmi), it was white and it was almost like a pocket, you could nearly open it. I was worried and went to the doc the next day and he did a test which was neg. he wasnt great just said it might have been a mis, might not have been and sent me on my merry way.

The reason i never suspected at the time was, i had been away with the girls and had doubled up on my pill to avoid having period while away.

In hindsight, my boobs had been huge the weeks before that..It was weird coz i didnt evenknow i was pregnant but it often pops into my mind and i wonder was it a mis or not? I feel like i kind of need closure on it iykwim..

Hi
If you had cramps 4 wks after ovulation then you would have been 6 wks pg at most. However you said that you were on the pill so unlikely that you would have been pg surely?
What you saw might have been a fetal sac...or not. I have mc several times at that stage and 2 inches sounds large for just 6 wks and also white doesnt sound right but I might be wrong there.

My gut feel is that the most important thing is that you move forward and not keep torturing yourself. If you want closure, can you come up with a way of saying goodbye to what might or might not have been? Depending on your beliefs things that helped me were...lighting a candle in a chapel...setting something free into the wind...making a donation to a prem baby charity. I know its easy to stay in a place of pain...but you need to make emotional space for a new bub if thats what you want now.

Sorry if I come across as harsh, I dont mean to but I hate the thought of anyone torturing themselves when the future can hold so many more wonderful things.

Take care

xx

Thank you jasmine, Sorry i just noticed i said 4 weeks after ov. i was actually 6 weeks after so i would have been about 8 weeks. also was not great at taking pill, had missed loads of them thats is why i was using condoms.

Im fine about it, it just pops into my head every so often and i wonder if it was or not. Like for example when I went to antenatal appointments for my DC, when asked have i ever had a mis, i didnt know what to say so just said no!

Thanks for advice xxx

bally I understand its so tough. 2 ins at 8 wks is possible.

I'm glad you dont seem to be someone who is stuck in the 'what ifs'. I've come across quite a few ladies like that and it breaks my heart when they dont go on to conceive again or move forward. I suppose it is natural to be thinking about this now with DC on the way, congratulations! - how many weeks are you?

I had a MMC at 8 weeks - and saw the sac come out. I had really bad tummy pains and big clots and lots of blood. Then out came this sac - white and about 1-2 inches long.

So I would say, yes, you had a MMC.

I went on to have 2 healthy pregnancies, so try not to worry about it too much. Easier said than done I know, but good luck.

Take care

Thanks, No jasmine im not pregnant now. my boys are 1yr and 2yrs. I dont really know why i want to know if it was a mc..I suppose i have been feeling a bit broody lately, maybe it is that, i dont know!

Sorry to hear about your mc ilovedjason. xxx