am i the only one who hates to watch one born every minute not because its a bad programme but because it makes me think about what ive lost and would have been going through myself soon :(

[jaylee89]

so i love love love the programme but sometimes when im watching it i just want to turn it over cause i get so upset and jealous!...is this normal that there are beautiful new lifes being born into the world and i get jealous of those women!....i suffered a mc last week and it was a much wanted baby......but i cant help myself to watch it.it makes me wish i was still pregnant and that i would be looking forward to going into labour soon. im just torturing myself but does anyone else feel this way?

xxxxxxx

I m/c in july last year. And I still can't watch it. Due date is coming up and Im still not pregnant.

So no, you are not alone. Im sorry for your loss. I know just how shitty it feels :(

so sorry for your loss hun.
me and dh are beginning ttc now as ive stopped bleeding but part of me is shitting myself as i will be so scared.i hate loving to watch it because the pain never goes away!
i hope you have good news in the up coming monts.

big hugs xxxx

I suppose everyone feels differently about this sort of thing. I'm not sure I could have watched it after miscarrying. But my sister, who at 6/7 weeks pregnant had a bleed yesterday, watched it last night.

I'm sure it's perfectly normal to feel jealous and upset. There's no rule that says you have to be happy for everyone, all the time. It's ok to have negative emotions sometimes, even about happy occasions.

not for the same reason as you but cant watch it as we have been told we cant have anymore babies :(

jaylee So sorry to hear that you've had such a horrible experience.

Maybe you should listen to your feelings and not put yourself through watching it at the moment. I can't watch it when a baby ends up in special care as that brings back my own experience of that hospital. It's ok to be gentle with yourself and not put yourself through any extra pain than what you are already feeling. x

Hi Jaylee89

I know what you mean. I watched it last night and just thought I want to be part of that!

It is hard watching it but I can't help myself. I'm hoping that by watching these sorts of programmes and being around my pg friends it might de-sensitise me to it! Doesn't seem to be working just yet though - still feel sad and a bit of an outsider!

Here's to TTC again and hopefully becoming part of it all. xx

No i don t watch it this year.My dd was stillborn in October 2010 i refuse to watch all those people whinging, sometimes about trival crap when they don t realise how lucky they are.

I don t watch it to protect myself.X

YANBU at all. I have a 3 year old dd and had 2 MC, one last week after a year of trying. I find it sooooo hard to watch it. I makes me think of what should have been and what i have lost.

I can't watch it either. DS was stillborn in june and i had a miscarriage in November. I loved it last year but its just too upsetting now.

hi, i totally understand and think you should try not to watch it....you can catch up with it later on Channel 4 OD when you're feeling stronger.
when the first series came out i was in the middle of my miscarriage hell and knew that it would be a very bad idea for me to watch it. i only "discovered" it after our own miscarriage nightmare was over, on Channel 4 "od", a few days before I gave birth to our daughter. i love it now but know that I would not have been able to bear watching it when i didn't know how our own story was going to end.

I haven't been watching as DH is around and gets worried about me when I watch baby programmes as I lost our little one at 20 weeks last summer. But I do watch baby programmes during the day on 254 when hes not about. I sound a bit nuts but I have a cry and then I feel better.