Any point continuing after 3?

[Iggi2011]

Had my first mc a year ago today. Back then, despite the awfulness, we were full of determination and even some hope for the future. I was convinced that a year on, I'd have my baby or at least be pg.
Instead I've fitted in another 2 mc.
So, really posting for a bit of a hope injection, for as of today I have none.

Heli do you live in London? Just wondering of you need to before getting a referral. Also was this on the NHS?

Iggi

Your story sounds so familiar to mine I found out in May last year that my baby had died at the 12 week scan it was an unbearable time and we too were full of determination and hope. I then got pregnant again and thought theres no way it could happen again I couldn't be that unlucky but it did at 8 weeks in the September. I was told by the GP and everyone that it was more than likely due to luck and went on to get pregnant staightafter at the end of September. I was so worried in my third pregnancy begining with a bleed which turned out to be an implantation bleed but we got through the 12 weeks scan, I had the downs test at 13 weeks which came back with the best results and then at 15.5 went for a routine midwife appointment and there was no heartbeat. I gave birth to my beautiful baby on 11 January and feel devestated.

After the first mc even though I was very scared of it happening again I was so hopeful that we could have a baby putting it down to bad luck but a year later like you I thought I would have a baby in my arms or at least be pregnant. The determination and hope I had a year ago or even six months ago has gone and I don't feel like I've got anything to hang on to.

Me and DH had blood tests in the hosptial in January but every test seemed to dismiss my circumstance. I have two children already which I am very lucky to have and this proves I can carry a child to term and also rules out most of the tests. Also, two of my mc have carried to/past 12 weeks so it rules out hormonal problems etc. I just can't see that we'll get any answers back. They are also doing tests on the baby and I would love to know whether it was a girl or boy I'm convinced its that I can't carry boys (as I have two girls) but its just something my mind does and I don't think there is any evidence that this can happen.

I just wanted you to know that I understand your pain so much and I wish nobody had to go through this agony. I read all the posts on this thread and what did stick out along with lots of positive stories was that if you don't try you will never get that baby and I guess thats the only thing to cling on to now.

much love.

So mayny inspiring messages on this thread, thank you all. Not giving up just yet!

don't give up.

like so many others here i had 4 rmc. after the 3rd i really struggled to cope with it and became a bit obsessed with finding a reason fr them. i never really got a firm reason for my losses :(

on a happier note i gave birth to dd2 3 weeks ago.

i couldn't have got throughn the bad times without the support i got on this site, especially the recurrent buns thread.

hope that 2011 is a good year for you.

I've had a pretty chequered obstetric history. In the last 12 years I've had 10 pregnancies, 6 miscarriages, 3 live births & am currently 18 weeks pg - 1 m/c then dd1, 3 more m/c then twins lost at 14 weeks, ds1 then ds2 lost at 17 weeks, dd2, now pg again.

Recurrent losses are awful & I'd imagine even more difficult if you don't have living children :(

I was eventually diagnosed with APLS & high NK activity - I had to pay privately to be investigated (because we had a child) but the NHS eventually agreed to treat me.

My obs is running some tests for me soon, however got appointment in post today for miscarriage clinic - it's not till August! We had planned to keep trying until July only, yikes. No wonder EPU advised me to keep trying and not wait for the clinic..