MMC, don't know what to do

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

Sorry, I'm sure there are hundreds of threads asking for the same advice. Diagnosed MMC this morning at EPU. Should have been 11w, baby died at 6w. Was told I could either wait for it to happen naturally or come in for a d&c. Was veering towards naturally but reading a few of these other threads a couple of people have made me question how likely or soon that will be as the baby died 5 weeks ago. Added to that, I have work and a 3yo so it's quite tricky.

But I don't fancy the d&c either. I'm so confused and although they said to take my time to think about it, it doesn't feel like I have time. I have had some spotting and, the last couple of days a bit more than spotting although nothing major. It could be weeks though, couldn't it? :( I have no idea what to expect.

Yes we would have had the same due date.

Don't go back to work too early if you don't have to. I'm lucky in that I get 8 weeks paid sick leave per year, but only after 3 days unpaid. Never ever used it before! So as you can imagine, I won't be hurrying back. No one knows at work

I don't feel too bad physically, just a tad sore really. Doc was fab and adamant that I'm not to go back until 100% physically as I have enough to contend with mentally.

My bleeding didn't last a week, so hope its over for you quickly.

Trying to look to the future so have an appointment with kinesiologist (alternative medicine) to try and get my hormones back on track. I swear she got me my bfp! Dh and I talking about trying again asap. Although we already have 4 children between us, it's only dd that is "ours", and I'm 40 so feel my biological clock is ticking. Loudly!!

Sending you huge hugs ((()))

After my first MMC, and after the ERPC, i hit a real low on the 3rd day too. It was partly because I would have had my 12 week scan the day after, and I just cried and cried all night. Also my husband had caught chicken pox from my daughter the day of my surgery, and it was hard looking after a 2 year old and 35 year old with VERY bad chicken pox, going to work and then coping with the loss.

I ended up going on a day shopping trip with one of my best friends to take my mind off the day that would have been my scan - it really helped me forget just for a few hours.

Please be strong, I know there is nothing anyone can say to make what we have been through any better, but taking just one day at a time and you will get through this terrible time.

I am scared about having another ERPC next week, as I have already had one, and I have heard that it can effect fertility levels if you have more than one. This makes me so angry especially when some women electively go through this - its just not fair :( :(

Milkyway I have not heard that erpc affects fertility levels, in fact hospital told me that things will be back to normal in a couple of months.

I had my 4th erpc yesterday so hope that's true!

Bad day today, uncontrollable crying and feel so alone. I know that it does get a bit better with time, but terrified of trying again after miscarrying once more. Dp is pretty useless just stays out of my way when I am upset and the occasional hug he does give me really doesn't make me feel any better. Mad the last mc seemed to bring us closer together but this time I just want to be left alone.

Hi to everyone let's hope that we get through this and become stronger because of it...