Long MC saga - have others had similar experiences?

[Hanza44]

Hi,

I am now in my 3rd-4th week of my MC experience - i had a Medical Treatment Miscarriage/ Induced Miscarriage at 12 weeks (pregnancy was actually at about 8 weeks in developement).

The Treatment was given about 11 days ago (after finding no heartbeat about 19 days ago). I have since had a scan 4 days ago, which showed that the pregnancy 'sack' had passed, but that my uterus lining was still too thick at 20mm (should return to about 15mm).

I was given the option of a D&C at this stage, but i really wanted to avoid this as the thought of any kind of surgery really scares me... So my husband and I decided to let nature take its course and have another scan in 10 days to check that things have returned to 'normal'.

I seem to have good and bad days. Sometimes the pain is nearly more than i can cope with, and other days i just feel a light period pain. The amount of bleeding also varies.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of miscarriage? It seems that everyone opts for the D&C and i worry that people may be judging me for 'dragging' this out... I find some comfort that things are happeneing naturally, but of course want the pain and process to be over ASAP!! I am also feeling some guilt with regards to work as i have taken a significant amount of time off while i deal with everything.

Sorry for the lengthy post, i just wondered whether others have had similar experiences.

Thanks, xx

I just had an ERPC after a natural miscarriage that apparently left a bit behind. (though really was only discovered by chance at a follow-up scan 5 weeks later, I'd had no bleeding in the meantime and even had a normal period).
Frankly I think if you want it over ASAP you should just have the ERPC. I've had three miscarriages: one natural, one ERPC and now the super deluxe combo, and ERPC was the best way for me to get it over with and move on.
Surgery is scary but honestly it is very straightforward and any pain should be minimal.
best wishes.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I have had 2 complicated mc's. One I had an ERPC and they missed a large part, which in short, came out on the way home from Cornwall and I was bleeding so heavily I had to have another ERPC and nearly a blood transfusion.

The second one was an ERPC in which the bleeding carried on for 6 weeks, when I was finally scanned, and they found a 'piece' of something. I still had HCG in my blood, and subsequently after waiting another 2 weeks had to have a hysteroscopy to remove the remaining tissue.

I do not think any method of miscarrying is fool proof, and often, even with ERPC, further treatment may be necessary and the effects can be long lasting (i.e. Had I not had a hysterocopy, when would the tissue have finally dissolved????). I personally wanted to be normal again so opted for surgery, plus the longer retained tissue is in there, the increased liklihood there is of you developing an infection and thus possibly becoming infertile. Just keep having scans and bloods and when it gets to where enough is enough go for an ERPC. It's likely they will suggest this anyway if there is still retained tissue.

Best of luck and sorry you have to go thru this :(

Thanks for your advice... I'm still having pain and seem to still be passing tissue, which i wasn't expecting as i was told that it was just my uterus wall that needed to break down now...so i was only expecting blood, like a normal heavy period.

The pain is, by this point to be frank, really quite boring and i am fed up of having to report to my husband whether i am in pain or not as i hate to be a burden on him. I also know that people at work are struggling without me and i'm feeling very guilty! But there is no way i can get back to work until my pain is under control...

Hopefully i will get the all clear at my next scan on Monday 17th and in the meantime i can only hope that the pain gets easier and i can go back to work...

Thank you both again for your advice - i'm sorry to hear about your experiences and be assured i will be asking a few more quentions at my next scan now!

Hanx