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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

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loss at 8 weeks, eprc advice needed

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uggmum · 08/12/2010 22:43

I found out today at a scan that there was no heartbeat. Been ttc for 2 years and became pregnant on 4th round of clomid.

I am really upset and have been offered eprc next week.

I don't know what to expect and would welcome any advice.

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batteryturkey · 09/12/2010 06:53

Hello xx so sorry for your loss, it really is so sad :(

I had an erpc about 7 weeks ago now for a 12 week pregnancy, where the baby had died at 9 weeks. In my opinion surgery is the best way forward, it really is quick and relatively painless. You will need to take in some pads,dressing gown and slippers,and something to read if you want. I was last on the list so had a lot of time to wait. The actual op is only about 10 minutes, i did wake up crying but only to be expected. I did bleed heavily for about 2 days, then just light spotting for another 2.I got my first period 5 weeks to the day after having the op.

I know other ladies will be along with their experinces too, take comfort that you are not alone,and most of all take care of yourself and your OH xx

KTDace · 09/12/2010 08:00

I am so sorry for your loss it is shit isn't it.

Be kind to yourselves and allow yourself to grieve

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uggmum · 09/12/2010 08:20

Thanks for your comments. I am going back to the hospital today for re-assessment. But they have said that I might have to wait a week until the operation. I am finding this really difficult as I still feel sick a lot of the time. It is like a constant reminder.

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KTDace · 09/12/2010 08:45

I am so sorry I don't know what to say apart from to send you a big hug.

I hope that the hospital are able to find you a sooner time for the operation so that you can begin to move forwards (if that is what you want - I say that because I reacted differently in that I didn't want to have the op, not sure why really, guess I wanted to hang on to the pregnancy as long as possible as I too had been TTC a long time, but I do think it is important that you do what you think is necessary IYSWIM - and that is what the lovely consultant said to me after she had told me the baby had no HB).

xxx

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uggmum · 09/12/2010 18:03

I have been back today. They managed to get me a slot on tomorrows list. I have to be there at 7.30.

I am really nervous but I feel it is the right option for me and I really didn't want to wait.

I am really sad and hope that this feeling will lift as I have 2 dcs and I don't want my mood to have a big impact on them.

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hairyfairylights · 09/12/2010 19:30

Hi, so very, very sorry for your loss.

I have recently had an erpc.

I had very little bleeding afterwards, not even like a period, and it lasted five to six days.

I felt absolutely fine afterwards, didn't have any pain at all and was discharged the same day. I felt physically fine - emotionally it was a different story as like you I was mourning the loss of my very much wanted little one.

Have you ever had an anaesthetic before? I had my first for the ERPC, and it was ok, no problems, I woke up cold and shakey but very talkative!

Mulledumbongo · 09/12/2010 20:22

Good luck Uggmum for tomorrow, I had a mmc this summer, went for natural management - ie no medical intervention and 2 weeks later had the tablets to bring on miscarriage, so I felt that it dragged on,t being in limbo-land of being not ttc but not pregnant either. I am sure you are doing the right thing by going for erpc and getting the nasty bit over with. It will help you start feeling better. Your mental state will take longer to heal, take time and don't be hard on yourself. Good luck with rejoining the ttc battle, I have also been ttc no. 2 for over 2 years.

Do what I do and try and postpone major sad moments for after dc's bedtime!

Good luck for tomorrow and I am very sorry you are having to go through this.

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uggmum · 13/12/2010 15:14

Thank you for all your kind comments, they have really helped.

I had the operation on Friday. Very impressed with the care I have received.

I am feeling very emotional most of the time and hope this will improve as my hormones reduce. I think my iron levels are a bit low as well and I am going to the Doctors on Thurs and will get this checked out. I am not going to work this week but will look to return next week.

Thanks again x

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hairyfairylights · 13/12/2010 15:19

Take good care of yourself Uggmum. You will get back to normal, but it might take a while. I felt very up and down - some days I felt perfectly ok, other days I felt very low and needed lots of support.

Glad you are taking some time off.

wellieboots · 14/12/2010 20:21

Had my erpc op yesterday so know what you are going through - sending you a big hug x I thought it best to get the physical part over and done with so that I could move on to dealing with the loss and grief - hope you were well looked after and that you're able to rest xxx

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