2 miscarriages both at 6+2

[waterplate]

I've been at the hospital today having my second MC confirmed. Strangely finding I'm less tearful than with the first (maybe because I was half expecting it all the time I was pregnant...all two weeks of it that is) but am slightly freaked out by it being on the same day both times.

Does anyone know if this points to a particular reason for the MCs? I read something about immune problems generally causing MCs at the same time, but am also aware that statistically the most likely cause is simply bad luck - chromosomal abnormalities - on both occasions. But would like to investigate further as am completely convinced that there is something wrong!

I haven't heard this, but a MC at 6 weeks or 8 weeks is very very common. It's also a very natural human urge to seek reasons for bad things happening - but sometimes you just don't get answers. There are basic tests that can be done as you obviously know - if you ask you may be able to get referred to a consultant (they usually do this after 3 MCs, but I got one after 2MCs). Just want to wish you much love in the days and weeks ahead. xx

Thanks Greenink - you're right, it's most likely to just be two strikes of bad luck with no underlying reason. It's just irresistible, the urge to find out WHY things happen - I'm not religious at all and I have to just put things down to the luck of the draw, but if there IS a reason I'd rather know sooner rather than later!

I'm actually feeling surprisingly fine with waiting and seeing if next time things go well, and at least if I have another MC I'll know I'll get some sort of support/investigation that time, but if I could have that now I definitely would (but can't afford to go private!)

for you waterplate

I had 2 m/cs at virtually the same time as each other and underwent genetic testing after being referred by my GP. Nothing was found and went on to have 2 full term pregnancies after that.

The testing was useful for me as it set my mind at rest over that particular worry. I still was a frantic knicker checker though.

If you think that it will help then why don't you ask for a referral from your GP?

Thank you for your post, that has given DH and I hope! We're not wallowing in it anyway, and we're aware things will likely still work out fine in the end, but it's always nice to hear from someone who's been there :)

I'll definitely ask the GP - just waiting for a scan next week to confirm the mc is complete and then will get the ball rolling. The EPU were very keen to emphasise that they don't do anything after 2 MCs - I ended up saying "don't worry, I'm not going to nag you about it" but I'm sure my GP will be helpful. She's great.

Thanks again!

Just to add, waterplate, I only got my referral because I cried and pleaded, and maybe because I got lucky with the particular people treating me.

I did have 2 f-t pregnancies in the end (both times after having 2 MCs so 4 MCs in total). Never discovered why but had extensive testings and also got a referral to the London specialist referral unit of St Mary's (I was late 30s so maybe they took my age into consideration). You sound like you are dealing with it wonderfully well - and I wish you so much good luck when you try again.

The only thing I would say is that I was told it made no difference whether I got pregnant straight away or not. But my consultant told me to wait three months to conceive after MC4 - and I took his advice. The next pregnancy was successful, thank goodness as I had definitely reached the end of the road mentally by that point.

so sorry to hear your news. I just wanted to add I had two miscarriages at 6+2 and got very upset by lack of testing (eg even just simple blood tests for progesterone levels etc).

In the end i had a private referral to a specialist and she told me to take a month off trying and have a holiday! No special tests.

I was 31 at the time. Anyway, took the month off and then conceived straight away and then lovely DS arrived. I took Solgar multivits (v expensive but very well absorbed) and took it very easy from 4 - 16 weeks. No exercise other than walking, good diet, lots of positive thinking and relaxing. After checking with your doctor, you might want to think about upping your folic acid intake. In some countries, eg New Zealand, the recommended dose is now 800mg (rather than 400mg as it is in the UK). Low levels is now believed to be a factor in recurrent miscarriage (not just neural tube defects) and not everyone absorbs the nutrient well.

I just wanted to share my story as after two at 6+2 I thought I was doomed never to have a successful pregnancy.

Hang in there, I know you will be feeling awful at the moment, but it will get better. Good luck!

I had a m/c at about 7 week with my ex-H then a full-term pregnancy with DH. Then another m/c at 7 weeks and a full-term pregnancy. It is quite common to have m/c at 6-8 weeks so I wouldn't think the m/c being on the same dates means there is automatically a problem. If you have a sympathetic gp she may refer you for testing. One thing that helped me was paying for a private early scan with my last pregnancy so I had some reassurance that things were progressing. Sorry about your m/c s and best wishes.

Thanks everyone, it's good to hear from people who've gone on to have happy little ones after m/cs.

I was a bit numb for a while and then yesterday finally managed to have a good old sob and have taken today off work to get my head together.

Still haven't heard from the hospital about the blood test result but I'm assuming it's negative for preg. hormones...every time I ring I get told to wait for someone to call me back. If I was at work this would be impossible as I can't have my phone on in lessons, but since I'm off it should finally get sorted today.

We're going to wait a month and start trying again after New Year's so hopefully like purequeen that will do the trick! Thanks for your tips, I will look into the folic acid too.