So sad - just a quick vent

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So the in-laws are here helping us decorate our new house. MIL chatting away happily about how upset pregnant SIL is about having to get rid of a bookshelf to fit her baby stuff into the house. She's apparently utterly bereft at the idea.

Can you imagine how that felt to smile through - I wanted to ring SIL up, and strangle her down the phone for being such a self-centred ungrateful bitch... smiled sweetly, went and found another room to be in. Told hubby what was said, said I would have given up every posession I own to still have my babies alive - his reply was, and this is from a man who adores his books, "I would destroy every book in this house in a heartbeat without even a second thought." Just sounded so sad when he said it.

Yet we keep losing ours - and people who are more concerned about a bookshelf than anything else get life throwing everything in their path.

World's fucking wronger than wrong.

it sounds as if it was just a very insensitive throwaway remark by your MIL. perhaps your DH should have a quiet word with her, leaving her in no doubt about how devastated you both are about what you've been through, and explaining that flippant comments like that are very hurtful. i'm sure your SIL doesn't think getting rid of the bookshelf is any real sacrifice - it's your MIL who's being insensitive here, and has presented it that way.
please don't' give up. i've had four miscarriages and now 34 weeks pregnant and you are a lot younger than me - it WILL happen, i feel sure of it, if not next time, then the next, or the next.

It's your MIL that's the bitch here, not your SIL.

Oh she DOES think having to go down from two bookshelves to one is the end of the world.... to which my mental reply is that she should have fucking kept her legs crossed and read a book that night instead.

Just fucking sick of ungrateful bitches and cows and sods getting all the luck - and we just get kicked in the teeth again and again and again.

i aggree es,people should be very humbled and grateful to be pregnant,especially when they have family or friends going thru losses.It does seem that its mil who should think before engaging gob.How awfull for you to have sil pg after everything you have been thru.Will keep rooting for you x

Fucking he'll empty. Give her a break! I'm developing a very big problem with YOUR insensitivity and incessannt calling people bitches. A person getting on with their life is not a bitch.

I've lost two babies and frankly I think you are in serious need of some help. I know it hurts beyond any hurt, but you seem to continually attack and call other women derogatory names. I've even seen you actually wish a loss in other people and that is sick.

All you ever do on here is attack other people :(

Charming aren't you?

Look I'm not going to get into a spat. But I really do think you need to seek some help with your attitude to others. Life is horribly unfair but it is not a competition where the most "deserving" get the prize.

Launching angry tirades at other women who have got what we want, and calling them horrible names (bitch is a very unpleasant and misogynistic name) doesn't help anyone .

You seem so horribly bitter about other people .
And that is very sad.

Your mil was insensitive. Why did you not take it up with her at the time?

Your sil is possibly hormonal ... Hormones make otherwise very insignificant things seem very significant And van make people very sensitive.