Friend sadly had a m/c last weekend,

[Librashavinganotherbiscuit]

My friend had a m/c last weekend. She has just done a huge favour for me, completing it despite the m/c. I am going to pick up the favour this afternoon and was originally going to take a box of chocs to say thanks but just that seems a little small now. I am very bad at these sort of situations and whilst I am still going to take choccies i was wondering if to take her flowers or something as well to try and cheer her up (as much as a person can be cheered up in these circumstances) or would that be too trite? Any other suggestions?

Anything you take will be lovely. When I had my mc recently it was just the recognition that something had happened, many people just didnt say anything which made me feel as if the baby didnt matter.

I agree - taking yourself is the best gift. So many people dont know how to discuss mc, or any kind of bereavement and having friends who are willing not to treat you like a leper means the world. After my mc, there were times when I wanted to talk and times when I just wanted to be cheered up, so take the lead from her - ask her some questions without embarrasment (sorry cant spell) and if she responds then have a good chat about it. If she says she doesnt want to talk then suggest you go out for a silly girls afternoon - see a funny film, go for massages, go shopping.
You're a good friend
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Give her a hug and tell her how sorry you are. If she wants to talk then listen, ask questions, show an interest and don't be embarrassed by details/tears. People like you can help so much by being kind and thoughtful