feeling horrific a month later...can anyone help?

[nevercansaygoodbye]

I had a natural mc of twins a month ago after a very long drawn-out month of heartbeats appearing and disappearing, hopes raised and dashed and so on. I ended up in hospital for the best part of a week in the end.
I was feeling a tiny bit sad but fairly breezy after about a week but I just got my period and feel absolutely terrible, really as if I would like to curl up in a ball and not really be here. I can't get any pleasure from anything, don't want to eat and in general just feel exhausted and not able to cope. It feels like a really massive hormone crash, and I wonder if anyone else has been through something like this, and how they coped?
thanks

Sorry this happened to you, and that you're feeling so low.

Bumping for you.

Hello again.

All I can say is that is exactly how I have felt. In the end I went to the GP to ask for counselling as I felt I was being such a shit parent to my DD - I am doing all the stuff I am meant to I am just not here mentally and her behaviour has deteriorated (sleep is terrible and she is wetting herself a lot). It is a long wait but tomorrow (about 3 weeks since I went to the GP) I have my assessment to see what type of counselling I will get, god knows when that will be.

I think what you are describing is grief and the process you need to go through - it is shit though.

I have days when I am ok, like today as finally my body seems to be getting back to normal and I feel positive. I have other days where things people say to me (mainly baby or pregnancy related) really throw me and make the next day awful.

I would say I think about my MCs every ten mins or so, I am a SAHM so I have the time to think about it. I eats me up.

I am hoping counselling will help me cope.

Sorry you are feeling so low too x

oohh god i dont know what to say?? Twins that terrible, im so sorry for your loss.
I had a mmc 8 weeks ago, baby died at 8 weeks wasnt discovered till 13 weeks, it was my first pg and im still absolutely devestated, 8 weeks on ive got to say its getting easier for me, i actually dont think about it every day all day now, the weekends are the hardest with my dh at work and me home alone, thinking about what could of been.
Ive found ploughing myself into a new project as really helped, decorating, planning my next pg and christmas, its certainly kept my mind busy.
I think physically after 4 weeks i still felt unwell, i think you need to give yourself another month and if your still feeling the same id go down the councilling root? Im not an expert but i still think its all very raw a month on, be kind to yourself, eat lots of chocs and drink plenty of wine and see how you feel in a month i say.
Sorry about the appauling spelling, not my strong point. take care of yourself and you,l get plenty of support on MN, i really helped me through, come join us on the conception ttc after a mc when your ready. RachXx

thanks and sorry to everyone for your loss. I'm not actually thinking and thinking about the mc, just feeling really really low and hating having a big heavy period that does seem to have triggered memories of all the blood..and can't stand being around babies. Wow this is nearly like a physical pain, like silent screaming..i've never been through anything like it

I was the same after my mmc. Dealt fine with it, well relatively, and then fell apart when I got my period a few weeks later. It is grief you are going through and counselling could help. I'm so sorry for your losses :(

sorry for your losses never.

Grief hits you in different ways. Afte my MC it changed at 4 weeks later, couldnt be around people, babies, little toddlers, it was just too difficult to be happy, everyone else was moving on and my life was static in misery. It does get easier to bear, you learn where to park it and carry on.

Be kind to yourself and let yourself recover both mentally and physically x