So sad for a friend . .

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Earlier this year I had a mmc and she had to have a termination due to medical reasons. This was after 3 miscarriages for her. She fell pregnant again a few weeks later. She's been for an early scan today and it's all over, having an erpc tomorrow. This is her 4th miscarriage and I am devastated for her. Not as much as she is for herself obviously. I just feel so sad :( :( :( Life is really rubbish for some people and having gone through this with a friend my hearts truly breaks for all of you who have experienced such loss as I've seen first hand the devastation. Hope you don't mind me posting, I just needed to express somewhere and I obviously don't want to to her.

DH's best friend and his wife have had 3 lots of IVF, the last one worked but she lost the baby at 8 weeks. Unfortunately it was also when I got pregnant so DH told his friend not realising they were pregnant at the time and then we didn't hear from them for a while and found out what had happened.

It is awful, it's unfair and I can't find any justification. We know they'd be amazing parents and I get angry knowing it won't happen (they've been pretty much told it's impossible). Oh and I feel guilty for having fallen pregnant easily and having had a wonderful baby.

Good luck as I know it's heartbreaking watching people you care about go through it.

Thank you for answering. I am also pregnant (a few weeks before her). I have a scan tomorrow and if things are okay I'm not sure how she'll cope seeing me get bigger, etc. I figured I will leave the door open and let her know she can come and go as she pleases, I won't be offended.