Need some advice, please

[kio13]

Hi, I'm 9 weeks went to the EPU 2 weeks ago and they couldn?t see the baby, just the sac , so, I had a scan yesterday and they said it was the same as last time, that my sac had stopped growing at about 5 wks. They told me my options, but they suggested it was best going for the natural option. I said I wanted to wait but now I'm not so sure. 2 weeks ago I started bleeding, but just some brown spots. Yesterday I began to bleed (red spots) but nothing today. The thought of surgery scares me, but also I don?t know what?s going to happen if I wait for it to happen naturally. I feel that it?s been a long time?

Thanks in advance.

Will a few of my mc's I have chosen the natural option. Have had 7mc's only two of which were ERPC's.

To be totally honest with you it could take weeks, providing you dont get an infection the hospital will be happy to let you go naturally.

My most recent mc in Dec/Jan last year it took a total of 8 weeks for my womb to be completely empty. MC was confirmed on th 17th Dec and I didnt actually get the all clear until 30th Jan. It was long and drawn out. I actually start brown bleeding the day before mc was confirmed.

Although it could be the opposite and happen quickly. I would say the red bleeding is a good sign its happening quickly. One of my mc's was over with 24 hours (although bleeding did last longer but womb was empty.

Sorry to read of your mc. I hope it is over quickly for you x

I had an ERPC yesterday. This is my first mc after finding out my baby hadn't developed beyond the 9wk mark at my 12wk scan on Wednesday.

I have to say that the surgery went as well as it possibly could have gone...and everybody at the hospital was remarkably kind and sensitive and absolutely attentive in every way.

Today I feel extremely sad about things but also massively relieved that the experience is 'over' for want of a better description...and I'm not sat here waiting for the inevitable (and the unknown) to begin.

My only advice is you must do what seems right for you...and I can only offer my own experience right now and tell you that the surgery for me was quick and relatively painless and I am already feeling a sense of much needed closure on what has been a painful and awful week.

I'm sorry you have to go through this and I wish you the best. x

I'm sorry for your losses.
I think I have to wait until monday and I'm going to ask for an ERPC, I really need closure,I can't go on like this.