Grrr I just want a blooming period!

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2 months since ERPC... not a sausage. I know that I'll get told totally normal if I go to the medical bods (particularly since I took the longer side of normal for preg tests to show negative) but I'm bloody sick of having my life on limbo - it's been on limbo since before July and the whole horrid miscarriage thing - and it's November now.

GP= useless, so no point even going asking him (see previous posts about the crippling depression and his refusal to treat), so I'm kinda stuck.

Preg tests now showing clear negative so I can't have that much longer to wait can I?

I had miscarriage a month or so ago and am wondering the same - when I will get a period, so I can try again.
You mention about the preg tests. I didn't know about this. tell me more... do they still show positive until your body is ready to start over again? when should it show a clear negative (how long after the miscarriage?)
I am frustrated too so know how you feel.

hi there, just wanted to say im 6 weeks in from my natural mmc 13 weeks, baby died at 8 weeks. I finally got my af last weeks, exactly 5 weeks on from my mmc. It lasted 4 days and was pretty normal. Then a week on, ive had a slight bleed again with some clots, nothing like my mc, but still slightly strange....
My doctor said it can take anything from 4-8 weeks if thats any help. Sorry for your losses. Hugs to both xx

Still no period - and the boobometer says one's not imminent.

Going to give it till next week and then ring the EPU for advice since my GP's useless. It's just the final kick in the teeth to be honest - had my life on hold since July over the miscarriage, repeated scans to confirm it, surgery and now this. My biological clock's ticking, I'm in my 30s - I don't have this time to be wasting.

I am sorry, it is rubbish isn't it.

I don't know what my body is doing either, I think I might be having a period (8 weeks after MC) but I never have the 20 days blood free, was always spotting, so perhaps this isn't one after all.

So frustrating and the hormones pinging all over the place don't help with the emotional recovery do they!

I hope your period comes soon.

empty I think it's a really good idea to seek advice from your EPU. I never had any problems with regards to periods returning, but I'm still struggling with infertility 13 months down the line from my mc. I just stopped ovulating. In some ways, I feel as though I wasted more time because I thought the presence of periods meant I was getting better. By the time I realised there was a problem, I felt it was too late to go back to the EPU.

From my experience, the EPU tend to be a bit quicker in terms of getting around to treatment than any GP I've come across. Good luck. I hope you get sorted soon. They may just advise you to have a month on the pill to see if that regulates you and helps get you back to normal.

Still no period. Spotted last night and thought oooh it's starting... then it stopped. Hope to hell it's on its way, it's got this weekend to put in a blooming appearance before I ring EPU.

Would it be too much to hope that in years to come we get some form of aftercare and monitoring post-miscarriage until it's confirmed that:

1. We have no retained tissue
2. Pregnancy tests are showing negative
3. Our periods have returned
4. We're all clear for Asherman's syndrome in the event we had an ERPC
5. We're mentally all right - with someone checking that we don't need pointing toward counselling or medication
6. It would be nice if there was some coherrent regional system to flag up a miscarriage has occurred and cancel midwife appointments/routine 12 week scans etc in the background, without us having to do the ring around when we're feeling at our lowest (but I think demanding the moon on a stick might be more effective than all of this)

It disgusts me that there's all this after-birth support for the lucky women, yet, we're discharged from hospital and there's absolutely nothing out there for us. We're on the accelerated express-lane hormonal come-down from pregnancy hormones, we're recovering from either surgery or delivery either medically-assisted or natural with the ensuing risks of things not fully passing, or surgical after-effects... yet we're just left to flounder along, google our way through the aftermath and no one seems to care.

I just fear for those not enlightened or capable or assertive enough to be able to find support and push for it.

emptyshell fingers crossed it happens soon.

Let me offer you a moon on a stick...as you say much more effective.

I thought my EPU were fantastic, really kind and supportive at the time. ERPC, home same day and then...nothing. No follow-up, checks, support. Nothing.

Then when the bleeding didn't stop I rang them and they suggested it was probably an infection and to go to my GP. Rang the GP and wanted an urgent appointment, the receptionist said why (WTF?) I said I needed antibiotics and then was treated to a lecture about chest infections that wouldn't respond to antibiotics from a numpty with an appointments calender.

Took a certain amount of satisfaction to say "actually its because I lost a baby last month and had a ERPC two weeks ago and the ward sister at the EPU has diagnosed an infection in my womb which needs treating immediately" Unsurprisingly she shut up at that point and gave me an appointment.

Isn't there a MN campaign about ERPC/MC and improving the experience? (as far as it can be improved).

Hi everyone, I'm playing the waiting game too, 4 weeks yesterday since erpc. Am convinced it'll be next fri- for no reason at all so who knows when it'll arrive.

Mercedes519 what you said about erpc struck a chord with me. I went in at 12, they took me down for surgery at 7. Brought me out a 8, and only around 10.30 they realized they had forgot about me, brought me some food and (after a long discussion) let me go. I ended up having mc at 4 while I was waiting anyway :( i probably had bad luck that day, but would love to see some awareness on how physically and emotionally upsetting that time (and afterwards) is

Sorry for my outburst

Fx for all you ladies that AF visits soon :)

In other news - 2 months to the day... it materialized with a vengeance. I never get heavy periods, never get bad pains, normally want to stab the world with a spoon anyway so no change there - full monty!

Mine was pretty much 2 months from start of MC too.

Glad to hear you have finally got your period. I found the first couple pretty heavy and dreadful. Here's hoping your next one isn't as heavy.