Our baby's heart has stopped at 20 weeks

[ClareZee]

Hi all,

After a roller coaster two months which started when we had a nuchal measurement of 6.7mm at our 12-week scan, we found out today that our little girl's heart had stopped beating at just over 20 weeks. We had been prepared for the worst after a pretty awful scan last week, where the baby had developed severe hydrops and the heart was already struggling.

We're obviously devastated, we tried to never give up hope although the odds were stacked against us after last week and in many ways were against us from the time of the extremely high nuchal. However, our CVS had come back clear of any chromosomal abnormalities and at 16 week scan all looked like it would be ok. They still haven't found any obvious major structural abnormalities.

There is some comfort in knowing that she is not suffering now - she put up a real fight. In a way, it seems fairer to loose her now rather than prolong the agony or have to make a difficult decision in a few weeks time.

The midwives who've looked after us have been lovely and one in particular a real angel. Got to go to hospital tomorrow to start the process of delivery. We're undecided as to whether or not to see the baby - we're both frightened of what we might see and have no idea what to expect but on the other hand don't want to regret this later. I don't know if anybody else can offer any advice on this?

Hopefully we will be able to get some answers in the weeks to come as to why this happened.

X

[broughthimroundtotheidea]

So sorry for you and the other who have suffered such terrible loss xx

[NotShortImFunSized]

I hope you are as well looked after tomorrow as you need/deserve to be. Hope everything is a straightforward as it can be too. Thoughts and love to you all x x