most helpfull books on miscarriage?

[Dooberry8683]

Please can anyone recommend any books on miscarriage?

Thanks

TBH I don't think that there are any.

I can recommend a reasonably good website though

pregnancy loss

Have you just experience one Dooberry? There's an excellent thread full of lovely ladies on here who've all been through it and now support each other whilst they are trying again. I'd recommend talking to them if this is the case.

I never came across any good books either.
I second the advice given below about the ladies who have been through then same.
Have you had one Dooberry?

Yes I had one last week. I was 8 wks 4 days. I have not found the hospital very helpful about counselling (counsellor has gone on holiday etc go to your GP!). I thought perhaps some books may help me to work through it eventually. I only have my DH for support and he is suffering too. I just ordered a couple off Amazon, one is a download so I will let you know if I find them helpfull.

How are you feeling Dooberry?
What were the circumstances,and were you given any insight into the possible cause?

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

After my first miscarriage I just nosed about the Internet, reading anything and everything and found that helpful to me.

After my 2nd I got the Lesley reagan book, as I was convinced something was wrong with me and that I'd either miscarry again or have trouble conceiving again. At the time I found it helpful, but I don't think it's what you're looking for.

Have you tried The Miscarriage Association?

Dooberry- So sorry to hear. I personally don't know of any books but a fantastic site to go to is The Miscarriage Association. They're run by women like us who have suffered loss and therefore know exactly what it's like. They have councellors that you can speak to by phone, email or in person.
I've had 4 miscarriages so far, the last being in April. There's alot of women like us on here. xxxx

The Lesley Regan book is good and so is Pregnancy after a loss, by Carol Cirulli Lanham - for whenever you feel ready to TTC again. It is American but has a lot of compassionate commonsense about the emotional aspects of trying for another baby.
Lesley Regan is the best person on the subject writing in the UK IMO.
Very sorry for your loss Dooberry

Hi Dooberry.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. If you fancy it, you are welcome to pop over to the TTC after MC thread. You don't necessarily need to be TTC, I'm not, but its such a lovely thread, we all try to look after one another, and we have all been throught hte same. Hope to see you there. lots of big {{{{HUGS}}}}

oh dooberry, so sorry you are going through this. I too have not found any good books, but have scoured the internet for advice, i just yped miscarriage inmy search box and there is lots of stuff out there.
You are more than welcome to come and join us on the ttc after a miscarriage thread, some of us are tryign and some are taking some time out. We are a great group, and i can honestly say that you will find a lot of support there. we have all had at least one miscarriage
Heres the link: ttc after a miscarriage

dooberry I had one book, and thats the only one i bought on miscarriage, and it was very clinical, and to the point not really about dealing with it but more about how it occurs and what causes it etc.
I found the miscarriage association very helpful, lots of info on there.

Thank you all for your kind thoughts.

Donbean - I dont really know much about why it happened. They did not say anything at all at the hospital. I am 43 and I am very fortunate that I have had two children already. the oldest ds is 22 and youngest ds 12. I became pregnant unexpectedly but was really very happy to be having a late baby. Sadly this was not to be. Maybe it was my age, maybe not. I began to get some spotting at 8 wks 3 days and went to the
epu for a scan, where I was told the baby had died. They said it was consistent with 8 weeks so it had obviously only died in the last couple of days since the spotting. I had a d/s. I felt reasonably ok at that point but it really hit me the next day. I feel like ive left something behind ?!? such a strange, sad feeling. Dont know if I will ttc again. not sure how i feel.

Thank you all for the links etc

Our pleasure dooberry - you've been through a lot, and there's nothing to say your age has anything to do with it, i'm sure plenty of 43 yr olds have successful pregnancies. It could just be that there was an abnormaility with the baby and it would not have survived so your body aborted it, very very common, butof course no comfort to you. I don't see why you chances are any less now, if you feel ready or happy to try again i;d go for it. Nothing stopping you until your periods stop which could be years away yet.

dooberry, I've recently had a similar exprience. I am 42 and my children are in their late teens. I lost an unplanned pg last month at 11 weeks. The hospital didn't tell me how long before it had died, just that the empty sac they found was not the size of an 11 week pg. I found some good books at Methven's on their website if that is any help. (Can't remember name of site but google will find it)

I Went to Ottakers on Saturday to look for books.
They had ONE and it was in the pregnancy and childcare dept. (you would think they would put them in the healthcare etc). I didnt buy it as it didnt look very good. I want one that is practical and one with a spiritual element to it (not particularly religious but I find it comforting). Amazon have a couple that look good but there is a 2/3 week delay on them.

Dont think we will try again. I dont want to go through this again and after all, we do have 2 healthy sons. Even though the baby was unplanned I was really happy about it. oh well. Hope for grand children now. I am planting some white Anemone in the garden and some white miniature daffs around a suitable statue (when I find one), they will flower in April when the baby would have been due.

I find it so hard that nobody has mentioned it since, even my husband wont talk about it now. So much emptyness.