I think my Miscarriage is starting..

[Totallyfloaty35]

I had a scan today and was booked in for ERPC on the 11th.I cant have it earlier as DH away and i have no childcare.
My spotting has got heavier this evening but still dk brown not red.I also have period pain and Back ache.Its not too bad at the moment( but i have Endomitriosis so i am used to heavy bleeds and lots of pain) but getting worse.
What do i do? My dds dont know about the pg so im worried about bleeding heavier than usual.
Can i wear Tampax ? I usually have to wear Tampax and a towel or 2 towels at once anyway.
Im supposed to be 8-9wkspg but they think pg stopped developing at about 6wks.
Im rather worried about needing to go to A&E, im on my own.
Sorry for my rambling,i just feel a bit strange,numb and not sure what to do with myself.

Hi,I am so sorry :(
I had a MC on the 1st of the month, it took a while for my MC to get going, but then I lost quite a lot of blood.
A couple of things; you can't wear Tampax as it can cause infection. If you bleed through a heavy flow pad every hour, then you probably need to go to A&E to be assessed.
My doc also said that if the bleeding is anything that frightens you then you need top go to A&E and be assessed. Same if you have passed large clots, then you possibly need to be assessed.

Do you have a number for your out of hours doctor? If not then please call NHS direct if you are worried about ANYTHING AT ALL.

If you are starting to have fresh red blood and you think things are kicking off, I would recommend getting in the shower, the warmth on your back could be really soothing and there won't be as much mess. You DO NOT have to go to hospital, it is up to you but I would definitely see if you could get someone to babysit and just be there with you.

Also do have any paracetamol/pain relief?
As for now, keep posting here and have a glass of wine/something that you enjoy and is relaxing.

I am so sorry you have to go through this, but I will be checking the computer and I am here :(

I am so very sorry you are going through this.

You can not wear a tampax though I am afraid for fear of infection, you need heavy duty pads. I found the always ultra ones night time ones that are really thick the best for me.

How old are your girls? Is there no one who could look after them for you? It might not happen tonight but then again it might.

I have had 2 MCs one at 9 weeks and one at 12weeks (was found at 10 weeks). With the 9 week one I started bleeding on the Thursday (slightly) by saturday morning it was heavier, then became painful and passed the sac etc in the evening. It was messy and emotional but okish.

With the second one it was a MMC and I decided to let it happen naturally. I had about a week of rusty coloured stuff and back ache, then one evening I started to bleed and it kicked off from there pretty quickly. I spent the night going from bed to toilet about every half an hour to expel bits. It was incredibly messy and horrid, mainly because of the lack of sleep and the fact that I was not in my house when it happened.

Both times I was shattered and emotionally a wreck.

Sorry this isn't much help. Can your DH not start making his way home? Is there no one you can ask for help from?

Again I am really sorry this is happening to you xxxx

Thankyou for your support.Im hoping it wont be too heavy as pg didnt get very far.My eldest dd is 15 and i could leave her in charge if i really need to,but i would rather it was in the day.I dont like the thought of her alone at night.
DH working away,we need the money.I have some lovely friends but they have young children and cant get over.
However i have had painkillers and feel ok ish.Still spotting but no blood,i think it may drag on a little.Which would better,as i have more help if it happens in daylight.
This seems so strange,waiting for what i think of as my baby to leave my body.I feel torn between being practical and wanting to lie on the floor and scream and rant.
I am sorry for your loss Purplebuns and KTrace, i really hope none of us have to go through another.

I hope your night isn't too dreadful xx

hi totallyfloaty, I had a mmc a couple of weeks ago. It started with a little spotting for about 8 hours but (not to frighten you) ended with a lot of blood and a hospital stay of a few days. It sounds like your 15 year old will be ok if you do need to go to A and E and someone can be there for you tomorrow morning if not today. It is heartbreaking but I hope you can focus on getting through the physical side and being as well and supported as possible for now. Please do call NHS direct in any case for advice on the medical side of things, they will be sympathetic and hopefully supportive and ensure you know how to tell if you need to go to hospital. The very best for tonight, do rant if you need to x

Hi, take the time to feel your emotions, you are experiencing a devastating loss and it is your baby, your hopes and dreams :(
If you feel up to it this site has so much useful information, including waiting for a MC to happen.
Again so sorry, and I hope it goes the way that is easiest for you i.e in the day.

So sorry that you're going through this, especially wile your DH is away. I had a MMC at a similar stage to you. I had some spotting for a day, then had a full day pretty much as KTRace described with frequent trips to the bathroom.

I was away from home when it happened, so I half-heartedly watched every mind numbing movie the hotel had to offer to try and distract me a little from what was happening. It was painful, but manageable with painkillers. The following day I was ok to travel 6 hours to get home (although I felt pretty crap).

Take care, and keep posting if it helps.

Hope you are ok x

How are you today? Thinking of you x

Hello and thanks for thinking of me I am doing ok.My bleed keeps stopping and starting and i have period pain that im keeping under control with wine and painkillers.
Its steadily getting more painful and i think its going to drag on for another day at least .
But I have a huge supply of sanitary towels,painkillers and a plastic sheet on my bed so im hoping i wont make too much mess.

Hi, I have been checking back all day, and I am glad you are handling everything so well. Try and take it easy this weekend if you can, be kind to yourself. :)

Purplebuns is right you are handling this so well. Take good care of yourself xx

Hope you're doing ok today. Sorry to read that it's been a bit drawn out so far. When is your DH back?

It is driving me a bit nuts now.All bleeding has stopped since yesterday eve and now the pain has gone.It cant be finished as nowhere near enough blood came out.
I had a cry in the shower and feel better for it.
I am having night sweats though,i feel ok in the day though.Its just going to go on and on

If it's any consolation totally my mc's have all been a bit stop-start. But they did all complete within about 10 days. I've had what you describe this time, and was worried it would take ages, but went for a gentle walk yesterday and that seems to have helped get things on the move. Went onto full red bleeding yesterday which stopped overnight, but have resumed medium-light period flow now and have also just passed 'the clot' (don't want to dwell on it as just cold-bloodedly flushed the loo).
I think you'll know when you've passed the main part of the pregnancy, and then hopefully everything after that will just be like a normal (but slightly longer) period.

Again, so sorry we have to meet under such circumstances.

Oh Digital, its rubbish all this, such a crappy thing for women to go through sending you a very unmumsnet hug.