Bloody Morning After Pill!!!!

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Let's keep this simple, ok. My Mum died 20 months ago in 2008, my stepdad found someone else 10 months ago and moved her in 6 months ago. She has a twenty something married daughter who has just got pg with her 4th kid. She didn't want the baby so took the morning after pill. Then she suddenly decided she wanted the baby after all, but the pill she took has destroyed her chances, which is sad. Now she has to have a D and C at about 8 weeks to resolve the pregnancy.
Thing is, even tho my kids and I are going thru very hard times at the moment, my stepdad's focussed on her. I lost 2 babies this year without a whisper. I lost 3 in the year before my own dad died (2006) and my stepdad said nothing nor did he even register it. I have been a great stepdaughter to him for 25 years. Yet this woman and her daughter come along 5 minutes ago and supplant everything. Why didn't he make a fuss of me when I lost my own 5 kids thru NO fault of my own, yet she pisses about with chemicals and it's all systems go for her.
To be honest, if you think IABU, I don't care. Because clearly I'm not! In the words of Nikki Graham, "Who is she????"

I am sorry, you are understandably angry. You have lost your DM and 5 babies, that would make anyone angry.

can you talk to your stepdad and tell him how you feel?

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all.

YANBU

Is it possible that you distanced yourself from him and he was afraid to talk about it with you. Did you share your grief together about your mum? Sometimes being strong means that people assume you don't want or need their support.

It is equally possible that he is an idiot.

You should probably try to talk to your step father, maybe about your own grief on losing babies and how this has opened a few wounds for you. A shout on here is fine, but whatever you do, don't do a Nikki with your step dad, it'll just make you look bad.

I am so sorry for your losses, and you are entitled to feel agrieved by this situation.

I am very sorry for your losses of your mum and your babies :( it seems very sad that it feels like your losing your stepfather too :( I do agree you can only benefit by talking with him, don't do the nikki bit obv... and I know you probably feel he moved on too soon after losing your mum and I'm sure that must hurt (even if you do want him to continue to enjoy life and find love again etc etc) but I can still understand how it could still hurt to see him with someone other then your mum... But I wouldn't talk too much about this ladies daughter or what she's gone through, her own fault or not, or what he's done for her etc just sticking to you and him, yer relationship, that's what I think could benefit ye most. I hope ye can work through everything he obviously means a lot to you. Take care and sorry if I'm rambling btw