worried I'm going to miscarry again - voices of experience needed

[cazzzz]

Hi, I posted several messages on a 'feelings after miscarriage' thread a few weeks ago. I've one 2 yr old son and had a miscarriage in January. I've done a pregnancy test (now 6 weeks pregnant) and it's positive but last week I had about 4 days of light bleeding / mucus discharge. It's all gone quiet now - no bleeding, have tender boobs but no morning sickness. I'm panicking that I may go on to miscarry, or that something may be very wrong with the baby but I'll carry it through pregnancy. HElp ! Anyone with similar bleeding experience? When should morning sickness start? (Bit paranoid about this sign because I experienced it in my first normal pregnancy, but never in the second which I went on to miscarry). Comments would be appreciated. Thankyou.

hi cazzzz, if you are six weeks now you can go for a scan which should be able to detect a heartbeat. pregnancy symptoms can vary considerably, and light bleeding alone is not a sign that anything is amiss. where are you? is there an early pregnancy unit near you? why not go along if so and put your mind at rest. good luck.

Hi cazzzz

Morning sickness is a funny one - I never had it with my first pregnancy which I miscarried at 11.5 weeks, it all looked like history was repeating itself this time round so my GP got me in for an early scan 8 weeks, then 10weeks. Still had some light bleeding and was convinced there was nothing there as everything had gone quiet. Ended up fine, gave birth finally last Oct. Would echo bossykate;s suggestion as to an early preg unit at your local hospital or do via Gynae emergency and say you are getting stressed, would another scan be possible given your history - most midwives would want to out your mind at rest so as to not add to your stress at this time.

Thanks for your messages bossykate and moomicat. I went to the midwife / doctor yesterday and they took blood for a pregnancy test and referred me for a scan next week. Feeling nervous about the scan because I had 3 equivocal scans before my last miscarriage - an exhausting and stressful time. Feeling quite low today to be honest because it's my 'due date' from the last pregnancy. I'm not talking to anyone apart from my sister and husband about this pregnancy because it was all so difficult last time going through about a month of relaying the 'yes I am / no I'm not having a miscarriage' stories with everyone. However it's really hard seeing friends and wanting to talk but not really being able to. The miscarriage association have given me the name of someone who's willing to talk over the phone. Have you used this service? Thanks so much for being online! Cheers Caroline

cazzz, really sorry to hear your turmoil. I have just been through my second m/c and just wanted to reassure you that it's not always the end. My first I didn't feel v pg and bled early on and she was fine. My second miscarried at 15 weeks but the baby was 8/9 ( felt v pg) and now this one m/c at 6 weeks ( felt no pg). So you see everyone if diff and each pg is v diff. I was able to get a scan at 6 weeks and they saw no fetal pole so I knew there and then that was it. I knew in my heart it wasn;t right but wasn;t sure if the previous m/c was clouding my judgement or I really didn't feel pg. You are quite similar to me a first born ok and then a m/c and now a pg with bleeding at 6 weeks but I would be protesting for a scan that day. It's a very hard wait and just adds to the stress and if your baby is ok it won't do it any favours. I would go to a and e maybe or ring your gynae ward. Knowing you have had a m/c already I would have expected better than that and you at the every least deserve dome TLC and understanding from them. Please put your mind at rest and go. I am here to talk if you need me at all. I'll be checking every couple of hours today. Hope you're okxxxx Oh by the way I'm just going to train to be a volunteer for the MA - they're fab!!

hi cazzzz
sorry to hear about your bleeding. I hope this can offer you a bit of hope. I also have had bleeding during this pregnancy at 6 weeks for afew days when the blood was quite dark and then over the last few days when it was very bright red and there was really quite a lot. But so far (I'm now 11 weeks) the baby is still hanging in there and doing fine. My scan showed bruising below the placenta which is where the bleeding was coming from. Although this is abnormal apparently it is quite common and doesn't harm the baby at all. So perhaps you have something similar. I really hope you get your scan as soon as possible and that the results are good.

My friend had early bleeding in both her pregnancies, and now has two very healthy girls. She went for the early scans for reassurance. I never felt sick when pg with ds, and we're fine too. Let us know how you get on.

Hi cazz, just a quckie to say try not to be paranoid about morning sickness - some people get it, some people don't (I didn't when I was pregnant with ds).

I should have added: morning sickness also varies from pregnancy to pregnancy (I know of one woman who didn't suffer at all with one but had it really badly with her other pregnancy).

Thanks very much for all your messages folks - it's really helpful. Just waiting to hear now when the scan is and the results of the blood test. I don't really mind waiting until next week - it will probably give a better chance of seeing a heartbeat and a less equivocal result I guess. Thanks for the advice on morning sickness - felt mildly nauseous last night - hooray (!!?!), but will have to see what happens over the next week or two - could have just been nerves. I told a friend today so that she could hopefully look after my 2 yr old during the scan - she was very helpful last time. Thanks for sharing all your experiences with me, it's helpful to know that other people have been through the same things- and sorry that you've had to go through tough times too.

Hi everyone - this is a very belated follow up to the original message. The scan at 7 weeks detected a heartbeat, I had bleeding fairly constantly from weeks 5 - 10, bad morning sickness until 16 - 18 weeks and am now due in early April! Fingers crossed that things will go well. Thanks so much for your support in the early days guys.

Fantastic news cazzzz !!!! Do let us know when baby arrives

I love good outcomes! Will be waiting for your birth announcement, cazzzz. Best of luck xx