Chances of survival once a heartbeat is seen...

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Background - I've had 2 mcs and lost our ds aged 13 days earlier this year. To our (huge) surprise I got a +pg test which I did as I was feeling so awful and was about 5 weeks since my period (my only one since giving birth). Had a scan last week and was told I was measuring 6+3, which although was 1 wk out from lmp, I'm so eratic I wasn't surprised. They've been very kind and arranged for me to see a cons at 10 wks with another scan. I can't stop worrying every time I get a twinge and although I know I still have pg symptoms I can't help torturing myself that this one isn't going to make it.

Sorry I know no-one can tell me everything's going to be ok but I just needed to get that off my chest. I know seeing a heartbeat is a good sign, but they didn't say what the speed was. It was a cons doing the scan so I'm assuming she would have mentioned it if it wasn't ok. Does anyone know any stats of how likely it is to carry on?

Thanks

I don't know anything about this but, I can understand your fear as I had quite alot of bleeding with both my pregnacies. You have to trust in the fact they sent you home. You can't predict the future so try not to waste your time worrying about it. Easy to say, I know from experience. Would you be able to get some medical advice from nhs direct or your family doctor? Remember your fear is going to be part of the grieving process for the pain you have suffered for your lost children. Your twinges are probably the feeling of your bowels moving out the way of your growing baby or maybe that curry last night! I hope this helps because I wasted alot of time worrying that I would mc rather than enjoying my pregnancy.

Hiya,

Sounds like you've really been through it

The stats are all in your favour as Loopy pointed out - in fact, the stats were in your favour as soon as you got pregnant, and are even more in your favour now you've seen a heartbeat. And when you see at heartbeat at your 10 week scan the stats will be sky high in your favour!!

I know none of that, particularly after what you've been through, will take away the worry of the smaller stats that it won't work out. But today you are pregnant and there is a heartbeat, so right now everything is fine. Take it one day at a time - I know that is so much easier said than done, and that time will seem to move more slowly than usual.

If you like, there is a thread in "Pregnancy" for ladies who are pregnant post miscarriage - lots of ladies who are very understanding and have all been through similar situations - they have been really supportive to me, if you'd like to pop in? I always think the first trimester of pregnancy post mc is the hardest, it's nice to have people to talk to as you go through it.

Best of luck.