Hi there, I've only been with mumsnet a couple of weeks, but I just wanted to share my experiences in case it helps anyone else, as I've got lots of advice and info myself the last few days from here, so thought I'd contribute.
I have just suffered a miscarriage, it happened two days ago, and I'm still in bed now with pains and bleeding.
I am 11 weeks pregnant, I started getting brown blood and a few cramps a couple of days ago, I decided to go direct to A&E and ask to go to the early pregnancy unit to get a scan. I live in a rural area and was on waiting list to be booked by midwife, so didn't really know who to contact, and when the pain seemed to be on the one side, I thought A&E the best place to go. They were great and got me a scan straight away within a couple of hours. Turns out the baby only had a flicker of a heartbeat and was much smaller than it should be, so they said it was the typical genetic problem and nothing I could of done etc.
So then it was really hard as they said they couldn't offer anything to manage the miscarriage yet, as the heartbeat was still there, if literally only a couple of beats per minute. So I had to go home and wait, it happened pretty fast this time, I had sticky jelly type blood for a few hours with constant painful ache and heavy period like cramps and bad back ache. It then turned totally agonising and I got more painful wave like pains, I kept feeling like I needed to push, and I ended up passing two large lumps of something and then have been bleeding quite heavy since. My DH and I made the decision to not look and to not do that to ourselves as that is not how we want to remember our beloved baby, so every time I felt that I needed to push I just sat on the loo and said a little prayer every tome I flushed. The space of tome was about 4 hours, then since I am just in bed with medium bleeding and aches, waiting for things to stop, been about a day and half now.
I actually have been through this before, we had a misscarriage of identical twins, also picked up at a scan, but a true missed miscarriage as both had def. died and no heartbeat. That was awful and such a shock as I was sent home to miscarry naturally, but I waited nearly 2 weeks and it was he'll waiting and being in limbo and worrying about the risk of d&c but being terrified of what I'd see miscarrying twins and what that would be like, but in the end I developed a temp and was throwing up so they brought me back in for a D&C and that was the best for me in that situation and meant it was all over with to grieve and recover from without sitting there waiting.
Sorry know I am waffling, but I'm so scared and hurt right now that it's helping, I am here if any other women are also going through this or perhaps trying to choose how to manage a miscarriage, whether naturally etc, just post back if you want to talk. xx