I'm not sure if this should be in here or in bereavement as they weren't actually born IWSYIM?
We lost triplets five years ago today. I was 16 weeks and 5 days. We went for a scan and were so excited! Especially as they were conceived naturally. But we got there only to be told that none of them had a heartbeat, they had all died.
It is still so hard to deal with. I felt pregnant for so long afterwards and put a lot of weight on very quickly so I still looked pregnant weeks later.
That was really tough as people would ask when I was due, congratulate me and touch my tummy.
Five years on, we have a beautiful DS who is 17 months old. (I also have an 11 year old DD from a previous relationship)
He has SN and LD. Sometimes I wonder if the triplets had 'complications' too which is why I didn't carry them to term?
Is that a stupid way to deal with losing them? Am I trying to justify the loss by using DS's SN?
Does any of that make sense?
We were never told what could have been the cause and I guess I'd like to just put what happened in a little box and move on in a way. I feel that I can't.
I appreciate how lucky we are to have DD and DS, really I do.
I'm just a bit wobbly today.
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Loss of triplets at 16+5 weeks. Five years ago today.
Mouseface · 28/09/2010 09:55
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