Miscarried my first - now panicking

[Vics79]

I know in the scheme of some of the stories on here, mine could have been so much worse but I miscarried my first at 7 wks , two months ago. It took me a few weeks to cheer up but I find myself panicking now that I will never have children which is probably heightened by friends announcing their pregnancies. Has anyone else felt like this? I have become slightly obsessive over taking my BBTs in the mornings and now I am convinced my luteal phase is too short. It just seems that there is no medical person to advise you until you have 3 m/cs. Have other people miscarried their first to go on and have healthy pregnancies??

Hi Vics79.

I also miscarried at 7 weeks. I didn't want to talk about it with anyone, including my DH as I just wanted to move on. I think what helped me deal with it in my head was I have quite a fatalistic point of view and believe that things happen for a reason. In my case it was that I was made redundant 3 weeks after my miscarriage (can you imagine trying to find employment 3 months pregnant!)

It took us almost a year to conceive again and in fact, when I did get pregnant again, DD's due date was only 4 days out from my first pregnancy!

It wasn't until I stopped obsessing that we were successful again. I even stopped noting my menstrual dates, something which seemed to irritate the MW at my booking in appointment!

I know it's easier said than done, but if you can, then really try not to get stressed or anxious about it as IMO it can make things harder for you and it takes away any of the enjoyment of TTC!!