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Miscarriage or not???

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FirstTimerMay · 15/09/2010 13:56

Hi all,

I was 7wks on Mon but had a small bleed. I went to EPU who scanned me and found a strong heartbeat. I didn't have any further bleeding on Monday but I did spend all of yesterday bleeding and still bleeding today.

I called EPU this morning who have said the amount of blood I'm passing (1tsp each time I go to the loo) isn't an awful lot, but in the next breath she told me to stock up on pads as it could get heavier but they really have no way of knowing.

I don't have any strong cramping pains, perhaps slight period pain/discomfort but I've just passed a clot the size of a small kidney bean. I'm thinking there's a good chance this was my baby.

Am I able to pass clots like that and still be pregnant???

Xx

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Wombat33 · 15/09/2010 17:29

Firsttimer I'm so sorry you are going through this it must be terrifying and frustrating not knowing. I'm not able to advise from experience because my MC happened very quickly and by the time I had my first scan at the EPU (5 hours after a bit of light spotting) I had already lost the baby. All I can say is from reading other people's experiences over the last week, seeing a heart beat is definately positive, but sadly not a guarantee. However, some women seem to lose huge amounts of blood and clots and be totally sure they must have miscarried, only to find out when they have a scan that the bean is still there and their pregnancies continue. Others, like me, are not so lucky. Can you get further scans and/or blood tests from you EPU or GP? I think that's going to be the only way you can know for sure. My thoughts are with you and I really hope it all works out okay for you and your bean x

Besom · 15/09/2010 17:41

I have had bleeding and clots in early pregnancy (in fact right the way through) which lead to the birth of my dd and I've had bleeding which was a mc.

It is possible that the clot could just be congealed blood which has just kind of got stuck somewhere for a while and that's why it congealed. So don't completely panic just yet, although I know it's easy for me to say and it's such a worrying time.

The strong heartbeat is a good sign obviously. Dd had a strong heartbeat at six weeks and my m/c ed baby had a weak one. The bleeding with dd did stop and start and was not particularly heavy. It is impossible to know anything for sure though. I have my fingers crossed for you.

Have they said they will scan you again or just waiting to see if the bleeding stops?

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FirstTimerMay · 15/09/2010 17:59

Wombat33 and Besom thank you very much for your posts, they've both given me a bit more hope although I am staying what I would consider to be realistic about it.

The not knowing really is what's doing me in. I asked for hormone tests but they didn't think it was worth while as they're still likely to be high. As for the scan, they moved it forward a week to next Weds but no nearer, I guess so that hopefully it will give a definite answer.......or perhaps not.

I've not really had pains all day but I'm now getting some fairly strong period type pains intermittently, just taken some paracetamol.

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emmywoo · 15/09/2010 18:04

Hi hun, I would ring your GP and expain that you are in turmoil and say that you want a blood test or scan asap. The HGC levels increase every 48 hours so they will get you in take bood and then they can do another one for you 48 hours later. They will also be able to tell by the 1st blood test how pregnancy is progressing. Your GP should be able to get you in relatively quickly for a scan as well.
Thinking of you. xxx

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FirstTimerMay · 15/09/2010 19:01

Hi Emmywoo, from the info I've been given the Dr will just refer me to the EPU and they weren't prepared to do that when I asked.

I think I'm pretty sure it's gone so I'm strangely calmer about it.

Xxx

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emmywoo · 15/09/2010 19:20

oh babe, I hope it isnt.
I remember being pregnant with my dd and bleeding and rang the docs in tears and they refferred me for the following day and when I got there everything was fine.

I have everything crossed for you. xxx

Besom · 15/09/2010 19:40

FirstTimerMay - Sad in some ways it maybe is better from a psychological point of view to prepare yourself for the worst.

Let us know how you get on.

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FirstTimerMay · 15/09/2010 19:51

Yeah I'm def going along with think the worst and then it's not so far to fall. Being brave..........

Xxx

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sotough · 15/09/2010 19:54

hi there, so sorry you are going through this. i would be very pessimistic, given your description of what you've experienced. i hope i'm wrong. if you have miscarried, please remember that it is highly likely to be a one off, genuinely "just bad luck" and that your next pregnancy will most likely be just fine.

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FirstTimerMay · 15/09/2010 20:17

Red blood now so I'm sure it's gone :(

Thanks everyone!!!

Xxxxxxx

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emmywoo · 15/09/2010 20:46

FirstTimerMay,

What is your email add as would love to keep in contact with you.
You are in my thoughts
xxxxx

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FirstTimerMay · 15/09/2010 21:02

Emmywoo,

I've sent it through contacts thing, let me know on here if you don't get it.

Think of you too hun, and your poor hubby on his b day tomo. Don't think it's going to be a birthday I'll forget in a hurry either :(

Big hugs!!! Xxx

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LadyGoneGaga · 15/09/2010 22:33

I am so sorry, I really hope this isn't it. But I went through this at weekend and it sounds very similar to what happened to me. Was 7 weeks, started bleeding a little, scanned found srong heartbeat but could also see site of active bleed, but bleeding increased along with strong cramps and mc confirmed 4 days after first blood. Having said that I bled with DS and he is obviously fine.

Do you have symptoms still? Mine had vanished? Was baby right size? Mine was measuring a week smaller (6+1) than should have been. They told me not to worry (bull shit). I really hope you will be ok.

Take care xxx

emmywoo · 16/09/2010 22:23

Hi FirstTimerMay, where do I find your email address as cant find "contacts".
Hope you ok.
Lots of love
xxx

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FirstTimerMay · 17/09/2010 09:26

Hi Emmywoo,

I'm much the same tbh, still bleeding although still not heavy, no pregnancy symptoms and just generally feeling flat and p!ssed off about it all now. I want it over, everytime I go to the loo it's a constant reminder.

How about yourself? How did you get on with DH's birthday?

As for email, I believe mumsnet would send it to you by email???

Weird and perhaps stupid question, but am I able to use tampons instead of pads? Only pads are ever mentioned but I'd normally use tampons and this whole feeling it happen with pads is making me worse, I'm dreading going to the loo constantly!!! :(

Hope everyone is bearing up OK and thanks for the replies, it really does help!!!

Oh to be a man at the moment!!! (although I know it's still not nice for them)

Xx

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FirstTimerMay · 17/09/2010 10:13

OK answered my own question and apparently it was a stupid one - no tampons due to infection. Should have thought of that doh!!! :-/

Xx

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justmee · 17/09/2010 10:15

Hi firsttimermay
sorry to hear what your going though.Iv suffered 3 mc unfortanatly :( but untill youve been to the doc theres not alot really you can do.its the worst thing not knowing and loo trips are horrid you just dont know whats going to be waiting for you :( i did loads of resting.hopefully the docs will be able to tel you something soon
As for the tampon thing i was told not to use them.But maybe check that i dont want to be saying you cant if you can.
take care of yourself xxxx

emmywoo · 17/09/2010 13:03

Hi,

I am ok. DH birthday was fine, i was in quite a lot of pain but tried not to let it show as wanted him to have as nice a day as possible.

Stil bleeding but Doc said this can go on for up to 2 weeks so not nice at the mo

I have changed me email add on here, can you re-send me your email address.

It is next wed your appointment for scan. xxxx

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FirstTimerMay · 17/09/2010 13:39

Hey,

Ah bless you!! I really hope it doesn't take 2 weeks for either of us, it's just horrid.

I don't think DH is completely convinced that it's gone and it holding out hope for Wednesday, not sure how he's going to be on Weds now :(

justmee my friend has had 3 mc and she's got 2 lovely girls now - I really hope it works out for you soon hun!!!

emmywoo I've re sent it so should hopefully work soon.

Xxx

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FirstTimerMay · 23/09/2010 09:45

Morning all,

I just thought I'd give you an update

Unfortunately I had my MC confirmed yesterday. Apparently despite a week of bleeding and passing some clots, it's all very much the same as last weeks scan, everything is still there........except the heartbeat but I've pretty much stopped bleeding. To make matters worse (if that's pos) they can't do my DnC until next Wednesday so yet another week of waiting.

As you'd expect, I'm sad, gutted, angry, numb and a bit more sad, gutted, angry and numb, sometimes even feel like all of them at the same time. However, I do know it will get easier and hopefully we'll have better luck next time.

Thanks all for taking the time to post support, it really did help and these boards shouldn't be underestimated!!!!

Hopefully I'll be able to post with good news in the not too distant future.

Much love xxxxxx

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justmee · 23/09/2010 12:03

Im so sorry to hear what happened
No words i say will make you feel better.Give yourself time to heal sometimes i find a little cry hear and there helps even to this day....
Make sure your looking after yourself and have lots of love from family and freinds.
xxxxx

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