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Don't give up - I had 15 and now have a beautiful baby girl.

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JaneyG39 · 01/08/2010 15:17

I feel sadness for so many of you after reading your postings. Please don't give up - there is hope and you will succeed.

Since 2001 I have lost 15 babies and the roller-coaster of emotions during this time was very very hard.

You put your life on hold, it physically and emotionally takes it out of you - robing you of what you so desperately want.

You need to allow at least 3 months to get over things physically and even longer emotionally. I found counselling an immense help especially when so many of my friends around me were having a family. The feelings of isolation, and being excluded from friends get togethers was hard hitting.

Most women have a strong maternal desire or instint to be a parent, a mother, to nurture and have that special bond with a child.

Some things in life are easy, especially the things you can control but your body is one thing that you can't and I very much resented it.

Luckily I have a supportive husband and family, but I did find the miscarriage association and their counsellors really helpful. The are a brilliant charity and I now raise funds for them.

For those of you that have had 3 or more - you need to be referred to a specialist unit. I was treated at St Georges Tooting London and received very good care from my consultant. He never gave up on me and eventually after injecting myself daily with heparin (which thins your blood), taking steroids and using progresterone pessaries I went on to full term and had a baby girl.

Please feel free to contact me - I know the pain that you're going through. Time heals it really does.

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Julezboo · 01/08/2010 16:16

Thats a lovely post

Can I also add mine too.

I have lost 7 babies. After 5 mc's I had heparin and aspirin throughout my pregnancy and ended up with a gorgeous little boy. Sadly I also lost two more babies after him but I am now 12 weeks pregnant and back on the heparin and aspirin, but also progesterone pessaries. I am coming out of the scary first trimester stage now and starting to believe we will get to hold our 3rd DC come Feb!!

kalo12 · 01/08/2010 16:18

congratulations JaneyG - what is your little girl called?

NonnoMum · 01/08/2010 16:29

Lovely post, Janey.

And is your baby the most beautiful thing you have ever seen?

whomovedmychocolate · 01/08/2010 16:34

I'm glad it worked out for your both. I have miscarried twice and each time I got pregnant the very next month, sometimes nature doesn't wait for you to feel better about things! And each time I thought it was the last chance I'd have and I was wrong.

JaneyG39 · 01/08/2010 18:46

My Little girl is called Amy and she's the best thing that's happened to us..... I am in love with her!

I have my fingers crossed for you Julezboo - take it a day at a time. I so understand how you're feeling.

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NonnoMum · 01/08/2010 20:48

Fabulous. Lovely name.

mrspear · 01/08/2010 20:54

Lovely post.

I will add my own. I have had 4 mc's and then had my handsome DS at 30 weeks. He is now a fit, healthy and chunky 7 1/2 month corrected.

Fingers crossed to all ladies who are back on the rollercoaster.

As aside i have had no doctor take mine seriously - they won't even investigate why DS was early. All they say is "one of those things." I may be expecting again but being an ostrich.

UmBongo · 03/08/2010 11:11

Thank you Janey and others, it is great to hear success stories when you are in the middle of the struggle.

Brokenbits · 03/08/2010 12:37

What a lovely post, Janey. I will come back and look at this on the very bleak days! I have to take off my hat to you for all you've been through without giving up and to thank you for giving the rest of us some hope. I'm so pleased for you that you finally got the end result you so deserved.

Moofold · 03/08/2010 13:13

I'm reading these posts at a very good time for me. Lost a baby in Decemeber and now another last week - both MMCs followed by ERPCs. So taking lots of heart from your experiences. Lovely to see you have your DC now and were strong enough to keep going

welshmummy2B · 03/08/2010 17:34

my heart goes out to you, for a woman to be so strong not to give up after 15 miscarriages that is courage and strength beyond any i've known so far...i respect you to the full.

reading this has given me strength, i've previously had 2 miscarriages in the last year and half and now pregnant with my third (fingerscrossed ill have a successful pregnancy this time) even if this isnt so tho from hearing how you got through things to have your little girl is a miracle im willing to try for. xxx

hairytriangle · 06/08/2010 15:52

Lovely, lovely thread, so nice of you to post to give the rest of us hope .

Thank you :)

BigBadMummy · 06/08/2010 15:58

I have never suffered a miscarriage so have no idea of the pain so many women (and their husbands) go through.

Just wanted to add my congratulations to you and thank you for your post as it makes me realise how lucky I have been.

We recently met a lady on holiday who had a son that we thought was really annoying. He really did have PFB syndrome, despite being her second child. She gave in to all his demands and wrapped him in cotton wool all the time.

THen we heard that inbetween his elder sister and him, mum had suffered six miscarriages.

All of a sudden he was no longer annoying and we realised why he was, in our eyes, so spoilt. And we hated ourselves for thinking we way we had and learnt just how precious these little miracle babies are.

hairytriangle · 06/08/2010 16:52

Lovely post BigBadMummy :)

GetOrfMoiLand · 06/08/2010 16:54

Bless you. That is a lovely post.

Thank god you got through all that heartache.

PinkFondantFancy · 08/08/2010 21:34

Thanks for posting Janey. You must be a very strong person - you are a real inspiration.

lyns2 · 09/08/2010 21:03

congrats on coming thru it still sane and with a precious daughter to boot! I have had 7 msc including losses at 25.28 and 20 wks so I know what a nightmare it can seem. But there is hope-I now have 3 great kids,2 boys and a girl! remind myself everyday how lucky am to have them even when driving me nuts! gd luck to everyone still trying x

TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/08/2010 21:07

I lost 7 babies and have also got 2 sons. I to had to use Tinzaparin injections twice daily but it was worth it.

jerzygurl · 10/08/2010 14:46

wow i cant even imagine Janey what you went through are so so strong..and how wonderful a babygirl x
ive had 2 aug last year that was due a year to the day mum died and i lost another 8 weeks ago and im finding it so hard.
we have to keep going forward though i know that...and there is always hope
Good luck to all the ladies ..dont give up xx

Dozer · 16/08/2010 22:30

Thank you very much for your inspirational message Janey.

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