I've just said something really fucking stupid and insensative.

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I just bumped into a freind at Tesco.
There were three of us freinds who became pregnant within 2 weeks of each other and had been having a good old laugh together about it.

Sadly, one of them, the one I bumped into had to have a termination at 21 weeks after something was spotted on the scan.

We were discussing about whether or not to meet up tonight for a drink. She said she would give it a miss.

I said," oh that only leaves me and Heather (the other pregnant one) That will be crap, we will just sit there moaning about being pregnant."

I am such a twat!
As the words fell out of my mouth my brain was screaming NNNOOOOOOOO!! but too late.

I hope I havn't caused her too much pain and upset.

phone her and apologise

Do you think?

I feel sick thinking about it.

Agree with Baco, there's nothing like a sincere apology to patch things up quickly.

Tell her your sorry. She'll appreciate it.

You'll both feel so much better - stop typing and do it right now.

X-posts. Honestly, tell her exactly what you've just said to us. She won't hold it against you.

I agree. If she is your friend I'm sure she will understand, you clearly didn't mean to upset her, and it will eat you up if you dont do something about it.

Yes, phone - she'll appreciate it.

Definitely ring and apologise. Had something similar-ish happen to me and my friend gave me a big hug and apologised. Meant a lot that she did that and helped me forget all about it. Had another insensitive episode with a friend over TTC/pg and she didn't even notice she was being insensitive (or at least didn't let on she knew despite her DH telling her) - I still simmer over that 6 years later!

These things happen...its sometimes what you know you shouldn't say that tends to pop out. Everyone has instances of foot-in-mouth-itis, but best to put your hands up to it and give her a hug and let her know you're sorry.

Say what you said here "I hope I haven't caused her too much pain and upset."