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Please just tell me I've been unlucky and send me a hug

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KnitterNotTwitter · 22/07/2010 20:30

Back in March I had an ectopic pregnancy that ended in a burst tube and full-on emergency operation.

We waited for two full cycles and then started TTC. Excitingly we got pregnant the first month of trying - early May.

At the beginning of June I had a scan and it was confirmed the baby was in the right place and had a heart beat and everything

Today, at just over 13 weeks it was confirmed that my baby had died. On Monday I go for my EPRC.

I feel so unlucky to have lost two babies within 5 months. And so sad. So so sad.

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MimsyStarr · 22/07/2010 21:34

It's crap, isn't it. You've been awfully unlucky. A big hug. x x x Hope you are getting lots of support at home.

oliviacrumble · 22/07/2010 21:49

Am so sorry for your loss Knitter, and agree that it is most probably down to rotten luck, and not anything more sinister.

FWIW, I'm currently 14 wks pregnant having had four m/cs in a row. In my case it was probably due to age (I'm 44, have had all my m/cs since turning 40).

Still, I got lucky with a healthy embryo, and I'm sure it will happen again for you.

Feel desperately sad for your loss (I 'lurked' occasionally on the ante natal threads, as my due date is jan 20th), and truly hope there are much better times ahead for you.

Take care and .

randomimposter · 22/07/2010 21:51

So sorry to read your post. I hope your recovery goes ok and you get lots of support. Terribly bad luck. Big squeeze (even better than a hug) x

banana87 · 23/07/2010 00:45

Oh KNT I am so so sorry to hear your news. Best wishes for a quick physical and emotional recovery. Hugs.

sunchild77 · 23/07/2010 10:50

I am so sorry too. Nothing I can say to make you feel better, I wish there was. Just take it easy, let yourself grieve. It will take time but you'll get there...Its such a crap crap thing to go through. I totally understand.

Look after yourself..

Irishmu · 23/07/2010 17:16

I've had two miscarriages and was told that one in three pregnancies ends in it must be really really common and yet it does not always get treated with sensitivity by medical professionals. Having said that, the nurses at the EPAC unit I attended were wonderful - the doctors could have used a bit of help...they didn't seem particularly sympathetic at any point - e.g. referring to the baby as "Retained Products of Conception" I found particularly horrible but the nurses were great...especially the one who brought me a cuppa, tucked me in and talked to me until I slept was like having my Mum there! They could teach sensitivity classes in medical school but if you have to be taught that kind of thing, you shoudl get a desk job!

reallygrumpy · 23/07/2010 20:30

knitter i'm so sorry for your losses and I hope that the future brings you a happy healthy pregnancy. Take care of yourself

RunDMC · 26/07/2010 21:40

knitter all I can say is big hug and hope you are taking care of yourself. I hope things have gone as well as can be expected today.

kat2504 · 27/07/2010 16:39

knitter, I'm so sorry to hear your bad news. I was on the same thread as you before. Sad to say that I'm no longer there either. It really is so so very hard to take. Big hugs, hopefully we will both have better luck next time. I'd also seen a heartbeat too and I'm sure that makes it harder to bear. Take care

DameGladys · 27/07/2010 16:45

Oh this is awful news for you, I'm so sorry.

I had a tube removed because of ep in May. I've also had a mmc too. It's so miserable.

You have just been unlucky and deserve lots of hugs.

DameGladys · 27/07/2010 16:46

Not sure if this is appropriate, but it's great to know your other tube is working well...

Honeywitch · 27/07/2010 20:17

And a hug.

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OnEdge · 27/07/2010 23:43

knitter You have been unlucky. I was unlucky with my 1st loosing her at 22 weeks, then my second at 7 weeks and my 3rd at 9 weeks.

I now have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and am 33 weeks with my 3rd.

I was kind of writen off by everyone as not being able to have kids, my obesity was blamed and all sorts of ridiculous things were said to me.

My consultant was amazing and I always remember him saying, it is just bad luck, keep trying and you will do it - he was right.

Keep on going - you can do it.

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