how awful is a normal level of awful?

[Poohbearsmom]

Hi all.
I had a scan at 9wks which showed my lo had no hb, they said to come back for another scan a wk later cause of being early, i started bleeding very heavily last sunday and lost my little one last monday
we buried our little one that eve
i went back to the hosp on wed and had a scan, they said i was bleeding too heavy and i still had too much internal bleeding and "products" (hate that term) and the doc advised tablets and come back after a wk to be re scanned and decide if i need a d%26c. I went through awful pain with the tablets but they didnt contract the right part of me! All the pain was belly button up and into my chest shooting into shoulders and throat and it stopped my bleeding!! The doctor said my bleeding altho too heavy would get even heavier for a few days but it was the exact opposite it stopped except for red when i wipe (sorry tmi) and the little clots on the paper but only a tiny spot on the pad maybe once a day... Not good... Stupid bloody tablets i thought i might have a heart attack from the contractions in my chest and they sucked it all up inside of me instead of "expelling" it! Sorry for moaning but i feel so sick really really shite to be crude im exhausted and weak iv come down with a horrid sore throat and ears prob down to being run down with all this but i just feel so awful... Is this normal? Should i feel THIS AWFUL!? Im so sorry if anyone reading is feeling this way too please feel free to give me a good smack if thats whats needed!

that should say d&c stupid mobile internet!

this sounds very awful. Can you get another appointment soon?

No, unless i go to my g.p but i doubt she'd really be able to do anything would she? I have painkillers but i just feel so rotten is that normal?

I don't know. I don't know how the tablets are meant to work, but perhaps you could ring out-of-hours service and talk to someone to check whether the reaction you are having is to be expected.
Everything about mc is awful.

It's possible that you've got an infection (as well as the sore through etc), which is contributing to the 'awfulness'. A GP can prescribe antibiotics which would clear that up. They can also assess whether you need to be checked for anaemia.
Don't underestimate the physical effects of emotional distress, but I think it's important to take care of your physical self as well.

I'm very sorry for your loss, I experienced similar in April but without the natural start to bleeding so had a d&c.

Do go back and get re-scanned. If there is anything left, it could prevent your body from making the transition back to normal cycles, and again, could cause infection. Take care.

sore throat

Thank you all
i think i will go to my g.p to see if i need antibiotics. My dh has been very good today and iv rested which i think has helped me a little but just feel so rotten
im so sorry to all you who have gone through this too

Poohbearsmum - I had an ERPC after my MMC as didn't miscarry naturally so am afraid I can't help re the physical side of what you're going through but I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you are going through this at all

I've been looking out for a post from you since you posted such kind words on my thread last weekend when I found out about my MMC. I was really hoping you would get some good news.

I'm so sorry you lost your little one too; and hope you manage to get some help from your GP. Rest up as much as you can - I think the emotional turmoil itself is just exhausting, let alone if you're also feeling physically ill

take care x

When I had mine .

It was a baby we werent even expecting and it was lost before we even knew it had began .

I had a terrific bleed and felt very weak and fatigued and its hard to describe but my bones felt like lead weights yet my body felt as light and empty as ever I just felt 'numb',just as I thought everything was over I took ds3 to mums and toddlers when I went to the loo a mum i didnt really know followed me and just hugged me tightly (nobody knew we kept it very close) and she said i know whats happened,I can tell when youve been through it 7 times like me you can spot it a mile off.

Its a death its a bereavement its a loss of something that should have been - you moan away my love and I hope in time your heart begins to heal.

I am so very sorry xx

Thank you so very much for your very kind messages

im so sorry for the pain youv both been through and are still going through

i think im not too well, i dont think my body is doing "what it should" and i wish i could curl up in a ball for a while but the kind words from you ladies who'v been here have made it easier, truely thank you