Miscarrying or not? So confused!!

[Choccybick]

Hi everyone
yesterday I had tummy cramps and spotted darkish brown blood. Went to see another doctor ( I live in Germany) as mine was sick. I'm now 6+6
only had my 1st appointment on Friday and saw a heartbeat.
Yesterday the doc had another scan and could see anything, told me to rest and go back to my doc Friday when she's back. I went home feeling uneasy.
After worrying more I went to hospital to get them to check as my cramps were worse. They did a scan and could see heartbeat. I was given some magnesium and Again told to rest and the info that it's a threat of miscarriage.
This morning at 10 I had lots of red blood with darkish bits just like a bad period so got ready and back
to the hospital.
The sac and embryo were there on the screen but couldn't see any activity.
The doc didn't seem too sure so I've got to go back if bleeding gets worse. If not I'm back there tomorrow morning.
I'm now really thinking this is a miscarriage. Especially because I saw a heartbeat yesterday and today it's gone.
I cried my eyes out in the shower this morning but have calmed down now.
The doc told me about the options - of letting the miscarriage do it's natural way, or having a clean out.
I'm confused and don't really want an op.But she said because she can still see something it's too early to say.

I'm going insane slightly.

Thanks for your comments. Did anyone experience this like this before ??

I'm so sorry Choccybick. It is a horrendous and stressful time not knowing what is going on. I am 7+3 but had spotting over the weekend and there was no heartbeat on the scan I had on Monday and the scan does not reflect my dates. I have to go back next Monday for another scan to see if there has been any further growth and it is torture not knowing but probably will be worse when I do know. (I am expecting the worst as I am really certain about my dates.)

I have no advice just sympathy I'm afraid. I hope it all works out for you.

Thanks TheDuckSaysMoo. I really feel for you too. Its really disheartening. I've been through all kind of emotions all day. Waiting until next week is a long time.
I'm having really bad cramps, worse than any period pains I ever had. Never did really. Still bleeding so expecting the worst tomorrow.

Wishing you all the best.
I'm here for you too x

Hello, I'm so sorry that you're both in this situation, it's very difficult, sad and stressful. I had a very similar experience recently, two weeks ago I had some bleeding over the weekend and then a scan on the Monday showed poor growth and a slow heartbeat. I had to wait a week and then had another scan which showed no heartbeat and no growth. I should have been around 8 weeks but the foetus had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I opted for an ERPC which I had last thurs and it has helped me to move on. I hope your situations have a more positive outcome and really feel for you both at this difficult time. Take care

ReallyGrumpy - that's so awful. How are you feeling now? I think our situations are very similar and unfortunately that is what I expect to find out on Monday.

Choccybick - just remember that you are allowed to be crying your eyes out just now - let it flow. I have been the same. Not only is it an appropriate response to the situation but it is also our hormones going wild. I can't face going in to work as I could burst into tears at any moment. Luckily I had brought my laptop home with me and I can lie in bed or on the sofa working (or MNing as I can't really focus on work). Let me know how you feel tomorrow.

There are a lot of posts on here about successful pregnancies shortly after a mc. Hopefully we will be three more in the near future.

I'm in the same boat
6+6 today, bleeding started yesterday, no pain though.

Have scan tomorrow. But have a terrible sense of doom. I hate going to wee cos I hate seeing the blood.

I think there is too much blood for this pg to be viable, Im sure of it.

Hate the wait and see approach. But there is nothing I can/ we can do.

Hugs and good luck to you all..

So sorry to hear that Sunchild. I have everything crossed for you that you will be okay tomorrow. Come back with an update or for some support.

Hi ladies
sorry to hear we're now a few more in the same situation.
Was back at the hospital this morning. Still no movement on the scan, still bleeding and have kind of given up hope now.
They took blood samples to check hormone levels etc. I have to go back the day after tomorrow(Friday) for another scan/more blood tests.
My cramps have calmed down but that's not much of a consolation.

Yes it's true our hormones are running wild. I broke down on Monday and was so happy my colleage brought my laptop out to the carpark. I'm off sick for the week but still did some online distraction today. At least it saves me having a breakdown next week when I open a full maibox.

So happy my friend told me about MN.

I'm still crossing my fingers for you The DuckSays Moo and Sunchild77.
Sorry to hear your sad news ReallyGrumpy. I'm sure we will get there one day. I've been looking on the net all day and found out some interesting facts. I didn't realise this is so common. I'm 36 and now regretting I didn't know earlier. I always thought I never wanted a baby - until a couple of weeks ago.
Life is one bloody big rollercoaster.

Wishing you all the best and finger crossed. I'll keep you updated.

Choccybick - I was 36 when I had my DS so you are most definitely young enough to keep trying. It took us a while to conceive DS and I spent the whole time thinking 'why did nobody tell me to do this when I was young and gloriously fertile'. I don't think it would have made any difference though and I would have missed out on other things that I think make me a better mum now. So, it is definitely not too late to be at the start of the journey.

Like you say mc's are horribly common so many of us are bound to run into trouble at some point.

ReallyGrumpy - some of your other threads have really helped me: the natural v ERPC was a total eyeopener and the exercise one made me - I loved the fact that you had the drive and energy to even think about exercise rather than just lying in bed.

TheDuckSaysMoo-I'm really glad to hear the other threads helped you. I found the responses I got about natural miscarriage v ERPC v helpful and were a big factor in my decision to have an ERPC which was the right decision for me. I'm still hoping your situations have more positive outcomes and debated for a while whether I should post on this thread because my story had a sad ending.

I'm feeling ok ish this week. I went back to work on tues and then ended up in the ladies in floods of tears at lunchtime so I'm not quite as ok as I thought I was. I'm also feeling quite angry, I really want another baby and it had taken me 18 months and clomid to get pregnant so it feels terribly unfair that I had a miscarriage. Fingers crossed I'll get pregnant again soon although I'm 37 and it's definitely harder than when I got pregnant with DD. Take care

Thank you for the kind thoughts.
They saw nothing on the scan, and so did an internal scan too, still nothing.

Three possibilities - I miscarried and passed it without knowing. I am still pg, but too small to be seen, or its ectopic. (she said my ovaries looked fine)

They took blood for my Hcg levels. They will call back later this afternoon with the results. I may have to go in again to have more blood taken on saturday.

All kinds of silly thoughts in my head now. But mostly just very very sad.

Fingers crossed for you sunchild hope your blood tests are encouraging, thinking of you

My Hcg level is 331 To be honest I dont really know if thats good or not.

Im pretty sure I havent mixed up my dates. I have to go back in on saturday for another blood test for comparison.

I guess its a wait and see game.... sigh. Its not looking great though.

I don't know much about HCG levels either but you could try this site. The comparison to the results of the Saturday test will be the important thing though I suspect. Fingers crossed.

I've had no more bleeding or pain but, from reading other posts on here and being pretty certain about my dates I am 99% convinced that it is all over. Even the incredible glossy sheen that my hair had gained has disappeared now. So much for me being overjoyed with my marvelous hair and lack of morning sickness! I definitely want morning sickness if I am lucky enough to have another chance and promise I won't moan about it!

Hi
I don't really understand the blood hcg either. They took my blood yesterday and more tomorrow. I'm getting up early to go back in the morning as theyvrequested at the hospital.
Funnily I've had less cramping and bleeding today. I never was a heavy period lass. Only 2 - max 3 days Very lightly.
I'm prepared for the worst tomorrow.
Just spoke to my best friend in England. I'm back there next weekend as I am godmother (+father) at her sons christening next week. Marvellous timing indeed.
She's been really sweet and told me I don't need to come. She was in exact same situation one week after miscarrying and was godmother for another friend.
I'm sure I can get through this. I just asked her to "brief" a few people not to ask me when it's our turn or I might breakdown or end up bashing someone infront of the church.
I'm trying to think positive that it's still early. My sister had to give birth at 23 weeks which was a very traumatic miscarriage.

Still hoping and wondering.

Back from hospital and as I expected it's not good news. My hcg was 287, much too low. There's not much left to see on the scan, just some tissue and a little something else so the doc said it might not be necessary to have the ERPC, depending how this goes and my blood values develop.
They took more blood and I will call back later.
Somehow I don't even feel like crying. I think it's sunk in before now.
I've got an appointment on Monday with my doctor.
The wines coming out at the weekend for sure.
:-(

Im sorry Choccybick. Thinking of you

Oh Choccybick - I'm so sorry.

Where are you if you are going back to England?

Thanks girls. Been on phone to doc at hospital. My hcg is down to 69 (of all bloody numbers it has to be something to do with sex) today.
Back home for me is Geordieland. I come from the coast North of Newcastle.
The weekend after I'm in Hertforshire but flying back to Germany inbetween, where I've lived in Cologne since leaving England after uni 14 yrs ago. At least I'm happy to see my family n friends in next couple of weeks.

Still feeling kinda empty but content know I have a definite answer.

I'm so sorry choccybick. Take care of yourself X

Good luck for your appointment TheDuckSaysMoo

thanks for your wishes everyone x

Bad news today - miscarriage confirmed and I'm booked in for an ERPC on Friday. Heavier bleeding today though and they said to go back for a scan on Thursday if I have a lot of bleeding before Friday as surgery may not be needed.

:-( oh Im really sorry to hear that TheDuckSaysMoo.
I really had been crossing my fingers for you too. Although the bleeding is really awful ( from the constantly going to loo and inspecting - sorry for tmi) hope that you are lucky and don't have to go through with the op.but there again Fridays quicker here than you know it and I suppose you can focus on new things from then onwards. This hanging in limbo for a week or so doesn't do us any good.

I suppose I was lucky that I bled for just 3 days and not much.
I was at my docs today. She said everythings looking fine. There's just a tiny Weeny bit of something on the scan and she told me an erpc therefore not necessary. Took my blood and will call me if I need to go back on thurs, otherwise I'm back on tues after I come back from England. She was really sweet and sympathetic but told me best wait 3 months. I thought this was only after erpc where you should wait so long. Gosh. I think if it happens then it happens. I might give it another month and a real period before trying, but as long as that????

I have to wait 3 months - no way! Noone told me that!

I told my boss what was happening but had to do it by email as I still start to cry as soon as I mention mc. His response was "OK - work as appropriate" Clearly he did not have a clue what to say but at least he knows now. I feel so unprofessional and as if I am letting the team down but I know that it is ridiculous to feel that way. How to add more stress to a stressful situation!

Sorry for the minor rant.

Hope you're feeling better after the Erpc TheDuckSaysMoo.

Fingers x we'll all be Mummys to be very soon again xx