Safe to try again??

[JemAndEllie]

hi there looking for some advice really and if anybody has had problems similar.

in 2001 (i was 18) i had a natural mc at 13 weeks and have had problem after problem. infections, pains, you name it. saw lots of docs and consultants and they suspected endometriosis or pelvic inflammatory disease. they opted for PID and i was treated for months on end with a concoction of strong antibiotics. i lost my job as i was off work so much. consultants said that they thought it was unlikely i would ever have children. i dont know what evidence they based this on though. i was kept in the dark 99% of the time.

i fell pregant again at 20 and had a mmc at 10 weeks although the baby inside the sac was only 7 weeks. after scans and numerous blood tests to measur my hormones they thought i had a heliotropic pregnancy (i think i spelt that right - preganany in the ovary). after going back and forth to hospital every day for a week not knowing if my baby was a viable or not they decide actually its not, its just a cyst. i had to have an evacuation to remove it.

another consultant then said that he was sure i wouldnt be able to ever carry full term and said he'd like me to have a laparoscopy wich was booked. this was april 2007 and it was booked for the september. however he completely contradicted himself by going on to say that if i did get pregnant again and the pregnancy was successful i will probably find all my problems would go away. i didnt understand asked many question but never got a straight answer. i fell pregnant in the june and i started bleeding at 15 weeks, convinced i was losing my baby we went to hospital, scan immediately baby all fine "this sometimes happens" was all i was told. pregnancy continued, now have ahealthy little girl who is 2. when she was born the same consultant wanted to see me and said i was very lucky to have her she is a miracle.

the question is should i seek medical advice before trying again for baby number 2?? my DH and i would love to try again but i am very scared of what may happen and worried that they are right and i cant have anymore eventhough ive never been actually diagnosed with anything. the laparoscopy never went ahead as i was 3 months pregnant with my DD in that september.

very confused and feel the docs and hospitals are very unaccomodating and very unheelpful. sorry this was so long winded just wanted to paint a clear picture.

any advice, similar stories would be great

Bless you what a terrible time you've had. If it was me I would write it all down and see gp and ask to see an obstetrician. Even better if you can afford a private consultation!

God luck.

this might sound so stupid but what does an obstetrician specialise in? ive only ever seen gynaecologists.

we are just thankful that we have our daughter she truly is a blessing to have after years of worry xx

Not stupid at all Jem. I didn't know and had to look it up after seeing GP. It's someone who specialises in pregnancy and complications of pregnancy. Many are also trained gynaecologists (who specialies in women's bits) but an obstetrician is trained to deal specifically with 'womens bits in pregnancy'.

Hope that makes sense.

lol at myself 'deal with' - I meant 'understand, diagnose and treat'.

I'm seeing an obstetrician - although I'm not pregnant, but due to the blocked tube and the ectopic, apparently they will help with what can be done to help me get pregnant again (always thought that was a fertilitists job, but I'm not complaining - as long as someone tells me what I can do!).

Hi JemandEllie,

I agree with hairytriangle, a second opinion or third or fourth is well worth it.

I have had completely unrelated problems to yours, but like in your situation, everyone suspects something is wrong, but know one can pinpoint exactly what. I dont think thats any reason to give up though. I am going to keep investigating everything I can until someone gives me a clear diagnosis.

Writing it down is an excellent idea. You can also request your medical notes from the GP. I think you have to pay about £10 or £20, but this info would be extremely useful to any private specialist you see. It might help you understand better what has gone on too.

Best of luck xxx

hi there, just an update, have been having a 45 day cycle for the last couple of months and been to the GP he has sent me for blood tests and suspects Polycystic ovaries. feel like finally im getting somewhere after all these years of problems. im not even worryi ng about the implications of it, im just relieved to have a name to it.

thanks for your advice hairytriangle i wrote everything down it was so easier to explain things that way.