How is it premenopausal women don't spend the whole time buying pregnancy tests?

[DumbledoresGirl]

My period is late (my cycles are all over the place, but the trend has been towards shorter and shorter cycles (as short as 23 days sometimes). However, occasionally, I get a longer cycle (eg 30 days). Right now I am on day 33 and still waiting.

I know I can't be pregnant as my dh has had a vasectomy, but the wait is interminable and an idle mind has nothing better to do that torture me with thoughts that maybe the vasectomy has failed. This is not the first time I have thought this way and I once went so far as to buy a pregnancy test (it was negative of course).

So I was wondering: am I the only one to fret every time I am overdue, and if so, how am I going to overcome this as I will be a nervous wreck by the time I am truly through the menopause. Do you not worry, like me? Why not?

Just me then?

Hee hee - not just you! I've bought several in the last year - all, or course, negative. I've just stopped counting. Mine have gone a bit like the buses - nothing for ages then 3 really close together. You can guarantee though, that the mo I go on holiday, or something important is happening then AF will appear.

My cycle has been all over the place too (I'm 44) I started taking Agnus Cactus about 3 months ago which is a natural hormone regulator. My cycle has returned to normal the last two months and I feel so much better, no PMT symptoms at all.

If you fancy giving it a go it does take about 12 weeks to really start working. HTH

Nice to know I am not alone.

Timeforme, it would be nice to be regular again (actually it would be nicer to not having periods anymore) but I am not keen on taking anything that affects nature. Agnus cactus can't work forever can it?

Mine are all over the place too - last one was 46 days.

I just knew I wasn't pregnant, thankfully

My PMT is all over the place too - seems to still be on a 4 week cycle

I honestly dont know how long it will work for but i am hoping it works for a long time! I havent felt so good in such a long time. My pmt was permanent, my boobs were more painful than they have ever been and i seemed to be living under a dark cloud. Also my periods were every 8 to 12 days. The change in me has been amazing, i wish i had known about agnus cactus months ago!

As its a natural hormone regulator i dont see it as messing with nature, its just giving it a helping hand (smile)

ps the info suggests that it takes 12 weeks for the full effects to take place but i noticed a change in my mood after about 12 days, i felt much calmer and less grumpy! Now, after 3 months nothing phases me!

Another thing i have noticed is that i am sleeping better, my sleeping pattern was terrible, finding it hard to fall asleep then tossing and turning for hours, resulting in about 4 to 5 hours sleep. Now i'm sleeeping straight through and getting a good 8 hours.

I honestly dont know how long it will work for but i am hoping it works for a long time! I havent felt so good in such a long time. My pmt was permanent, my boobs were more painful than they have ever been and i seemed to be living under a dark cloud. Also my periods were every 8 to 12 days. The change in me has been amazing, i wish i had known about agnus cactus months ago!

As its a natural hormone regulator i dont see it as messing with nature, its just giving it a helping hand (smile)

Wow, that does sound good stuff! I will bear it in mind if things get too out of control. Right now, for me, the worst thing is wondering if I could be pregnant when my cycle is late. Now 34 days and counting

Oops, sorry about the double post, I was posting from my phone last night

I was just the same DumbledoresGirl. Before my cycle settled at 8 to 12 days I was missing periods left right and centre! I also had all the symptoms of pregnancy, right down to the nausea and, even though I have been steralized I did worry I could be pregnant so, you are not on your own

Try switching your mindset, think 'menopause' rather than 'pregnancy'

Glad it's not just me. Age 46 and after months getting shorter and shorter I'm now at day 40. Been getting nothing but stomach cramps so going to loo to check every 5mins .
That agnus cactus sounds like good stuff, where can I get some?

I buy mine online from Holland and Barratt. They had a half price sale a couple of months ago so I bought bottles of it!

They are 400mg capsules and I take 2 on a morning and then another 2 after tea.

I think I have single handedly kept clearblue in business this last year! Periods were patchy for a few months, then returned with a vengeance last spring, then stopped again last summer. Always negative. Doc, thinks it could be menopause (I'm late 40's) and I am to have a blood test next month to see!

This is my first month of no period and it feels very odd. I feel quite emtional all the time I've always suffered PMT but a least AF put an end to that for the month. I've got my Agnus cactus should I start taking it after my period arrives or start now?

Oh and yes I did buy some pregnancy tests.